I wonder if it will ever NOT be weird to have him gone on a holiday? Probably not, even when I prepare for it. You just really can’t get over that little piece missing no matter where the celebration is happening. We have a big dinner planned for tomorrow when he’s home and we’re doing it up different by grilling and smoking the turkey. Something to look forward to 
But with how much life changes each year I wanted to post things I’m thankful for today because it’s so easy to look at the negative.
** I’m thankful for his job that he still loves.
** I’m thankful for the time his job gives us as a family to go run off camping together at odd times
** I’m thankful for the fact that his job gives us time together during weekdays to go shopping or to the range or other things that are too busy on weekends to enjoy much.
** I’m thankful for the support of our many friends and especially the other wives. No one gets that you aren’t “complaining” when you just have to vent about work, like another wife going through the same thing daily.
** Most importantly I’m thankful for every morning he comes home from work, even if I wanted to sleep in on the weekend. I’ll take every day I can get
Happy Thanksgiving! What are you thankful for?
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Stacie
I totally get what you are saying. I’m not complaining, just wanting to relate with others whose husbands are in the same field.
I fell like I do not see my husband much. There is so much demand on his time and praise God he does have the oppurtunity for overtime. This week we have needed it desperately due to appliances breaking down left and right.
I am thankful for the overtime, yet it takes him away so often from the kids and I. It is a double-edged sword. I would not be able to stay home with them if he didn’t get at least some.
Glad I’m not alone!
HotWife
Yep, I get it Stacie. Double-edged sword is right. It’s so helpful to have other wives to talk to about things. I know guys think it’s “complaining” but it’s not. Sometimes a vent is needed just to get it off our chest so we can keep moving on. I’m relearning why girls nights are so important.
Micha
This Was My 2nd Christmas With My Boyfriend Who Is On 2 Seperate Depts. One For Fire And The Other For Resuce Inwhich I Am On With Him. And Right Before Dinner With My Parents On Xmas Eve Theres A Huge House Fire. They Called In Several Depts For Tankers And Man Power. Not Only Was My Heart In My Throat, I Was Hard To Hold Back Tears Infront Of My Parents. I Can Honestly Say, I Give You Ladies SOO Much Respect For Having Kids And Being Married. It Will Be A Few Years Before I Can Pretend It Doesn’t Bother Me. I Know He Has/Loves To Do It. It’s Just That Feeling That At Any Moment He Could Not Come Home. He Does Awesome With Handling Me. He Never Leaves Without A Kiss Good-bye!
HotWife
Hi Micha, that’s for commenting.
Since hubby has been firefighter for almost 11 years now, I’m not sure if I have gotten over the “not coming home” feeling or if I was just too busy with little one’s back when he started. He was volunteer for about 7 years before getting hired on and if he sat through a whole holiday meal or BBQ we all thought it was weird. lol
I don’t think there is a reason to hold back tears in front of family. I would definitely try to hold them back until after he leaves, but my family has to know what I go through or they can’t help me work through things. No one should be working through it alone.
Always a kiss goodbye, ALWAYS. This was a rule before he became a firefighter.
I know I’m a freak now because if he got called onto such a big fire I’d be excited for him to go and come back with stories of how it went. I’m not normal am I? ugh