Please welcome guest blogger and fellow Fire Wife, Wren Baumgartel who blogs at  Her Hero, His Lady.   Today she’s sharing about strengthening marriage, a topic that is a main focus for us here at Firefighter Wife.  Thanks Wren!  ~ Lori  AKA WifeOnFire

Hey Yall! I’m Wren Baumgartel and like all of you I’m a wife to a Firefighter/EMT who is also a HazMat Tech and US Army Veteran. Since we don’t have kiddos yet I work full-time as an office manager for a law office, while going to school full-time for my Bachelor’s in Business Management. Then the rare days I am home, I play furmommy to two boisterous Border Collies and one cat who thinks she is Cleopatra. On rare occasions I try to participate as an Advocate for Domestic Violence and use my knowledge as a survivor to help others assess their situation.

Our Marriage Mission Statement

Have you heard of it? Do you have one? We do. As we are getting closer to a time of expanding our family, I pulled this out to refresh my memory of what Mike & I are striving for in our marriage. (I was irritated with him at the moment and it helped me put things back into perspective.) Even though we have been together for five and a half years this is something to bring me back to the basics of our marriage. This was an assignment I had be tasked to do in a God & Human Sexuality class last year, and I was thinking “Oh geez. We’ll be lucky if we can come up with five answers.” I was so wrong though. When I presented my assignment to Mike he just looked at me like “You’ve got to be joking, right?” Honestly, I was secretly excited to see if our goals and vision for our marriage were on the same path yet nervous if he was going to take me serious and work on this with me. Yet, it made total sense considering I’m a business major and every business starts with a mission statement so why shouldn’t a marriage? Essentially it is a business; people working together for a common goal, managing finances/people, scheduling, and investments (emotional and otherwise). Below is what we came up with. (WE. That’s the key word there.) Once he realized it was important, he actually got down to business helping me. We kept it very generic so it will apply to all parts of our marriage throughout our lives. Also we kept in mind that one day children would come into the picture and how we want to model ourselves for our children. Hopefully this gets you to thinking about what you would put into your own marriage mission statement. It definitely holds me accountable to my actions in my marriage. I’m thinking of possibly having it printed on pretty paper and then framing it to hang in our living room for all to see.

The Baumgartels’ Mission Statement 

  1. In everything we do, our first priority is to each other and our well-being as a family unit. 
  2. To love each other whole heartily and unconditionally.
  3. Maintain open and honest communication.
  4. Be[come] a model of marriage for our [future] children to learn from.
  5. Uphold the values and morals we were taught and wish to instill unto future generations. 
  6. Remember that marriage is a two way street and neither of us are mind readers.
  7. Lastly, have fun. Don’t sweat the small stuff. 

Oh! An episode of TLC’s Sister Wives mentioned another polygamist family had a mission statement and it got the Brown’s to thinking they needed one for their family too. It validated that I wasn’t crazy for having one.

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Hey Yall! I'm Wren Baumgartel and like all of you I'm a wife to a Firefighter/EMT who is also a HazMat Tech and US Army Veteran. Since we don't have kiddos yet I work full-time as an office manager for a law office, while going to school full-time for my Bachelor's in Business Management. Then the rare days I am home, I play furmommy to two boisterous Border Collies and one cat who thinks she is Cleopatra. On rare occasions I try to participate as an Advocate for Domestic Violence and use my knowledge as a survivor to help others assess their situation.

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