Can you feel it? The bloat of stuffing and the turkey just fading away. The jingling bells of Christmas and the holiday season coming right for you? The holidays are officially here and hollering merrily that it is time to decide what WILL be the perfect gift for everyone!

Whew, just the thought is enough to exhaust me any old day, let alone the Monday after a holiday! 

With all the hustle of what to buy all my loved ones, when and where we will be traveling, and how I am possibly going to fit all the family fun in these few short weeks….when my husband is working 30-50% of the time… well, even the most seasoned fire wife gets a little stressed just thinking about it. Last year December went by in the blink of an eye. I felt like I didn’t event get to enjoy the time and looking back, I don’t even remember spending any time with my husband!    

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(NOTE:  Last December we were embroiled in a “will there be a promotion open before the end of the year or not?” fire department drama.  My husband even admitted on Christmas day he felt like he didn’t participate in Christmas.  I gently reminded him how much of his off time he spent on his phone with text and calls about this roller coaster topic with guys from the department…. including when the big news finally came down in the middle of our family gift-buying trip!)

It’s horrible, I know, considering we are the fire couple screaming the loudest about honoring marriages.   But it’s just real.  We get it. With our children and family as a priority and holiday time being so busy… well… “we” just fell by the wayside. It happens, right? You make a plan. Time to spend together but then stuff comes up. That is marriage. Then work. A shift. OT opportunities. He is too tired to go out. So you hang the dress back up. You try a little less the next time. 

We just fell into a pattern and sitting on the couch became comfortable (you don’t have to pay a babysitter for that!). But, where is the romance there?

You see, I made a promise that I would not let that happen this year.  I was also going full force as a mom, volunteer, soccer carpool – you name it! This is amazing for my family, but what about my marriage.

Here are a few tips to keep the focus on your marriage during the holidays this year (and the other eleven months!):

  1. I had to learn to say “no!” to things that will pull me away from our relationship more and truly focus on things that will bring us together. Being a fire wife means that half the time we know we won’t see our spouse. It means that we know going into every single day we have to make the most of our time together.
  2.  Pick one night a month that is YOUR night. (Yes this can vary with the fire scheduled so set it monthly!)  Inside the house or out, you are spending it together, no matter what. It helps to have a “going out” plan and a “staying in” plan so that it doesn’t end up being just another night where you both sit on the couch doing the say old thing!
  3. Take the first big step. I KNOW you want him to romantically notice that you are dying to be asked out but lets be real.  Guys don’t always get that hint.  We need to be bold and not expect them to read our minds.   Buy him a small gift you know he will love or make him something. Plan a sexy surprise and write him a note to stick in his overnight bag. Put yourself out there and expect nothing in return. Your gesture will mean a lot but remember, it is a gesture!

Need a few ideas?   Thank goodness our creative friends over at Dating Divas take the guess work out of this problem.

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How amazing is that! I have been so impressed with the quality of their dates and packages they put together – knowing that you have a whole year of ideas coming straight to your inbox is the perfect way to set up for a fun and healthy marriage in 2017. 

Today ONLY! Click here for a Year of Dates by the Dating Divas for only $25! 

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If you want to give something that can be wrapped….print these out with a calendar and perhaps even a cute little something to unwrap each month for your special date.  

Their printables are so meaningful, no one can compete and we’re proud to have The Dating Divas as a partner here for our organization.  When you purchase through these links, a portion goes back to our non-profit.  

Here is a sneak peak of the Intimacy Pack and the full month of dates.

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JANUARY

Your Date
The Newlywed Game
Your Intimacy Idea
Intimacy Calendar + Honey Do List + Sassy Suggestion List + Envelopes + Love Notes + Sexy Coupons
Your Love Letter
January Love Letter Script + Stationery + Envelope

FEBRUARY

Your Date
Tied To You & Couple’s Cafe Dates
Your Intimacy Idea
Vixen Love Shop Invitation + Love Menu + Purchase Receipt + Love Cash + Door Hanger
Your Love Letter
February Love Letter Script + Stationery + Envelope

MARCH

Your Date
Nerf Wars Date
Your Intimacy Idea
March Madness Invitation + Basketball Tags
Your Love Letter
March Love Letter Script + Stationery + Envelope

APRIL

Your Date
Knock It Outta The Park Date
Your Intimacy Idea
Egg Notes + Petal Boxes + Note Tags + Invitation + Bunny Love Note
Your Love Letter
April Love Letter Script + Stationery + Envelope

MAY

Your Date
Dollar Menu-naires & Bedroom Value Menu Dates
Your Intimacy Idea
Graduation Hat Invitations + Masters in Bedroom Arts Diploma + His and Hers Exit Exams + University of Intimacy Pendant
Your Love Letter
May Love Letter Script + Stationery + Envelope

JUNE

Your Date
Car Treasure Hunt Date
Your Intimacy Idea
2 Sweet Spot Recipes + Invitation + Envelope + Menu + “Sweet Spot” Banner + Straw Flags + Recipe Cards + Love Notes
Your Love Letter
June Love Letter Script + Stationery + Envelope

JULY

Your Date
Mall Dare Date
Your Intimacy Idea
Invitation + Love Notes + HOT Conversation Starters + Stop, Drop, and Roll Card + Spinner Game + Stencils
Your Love Letter
July Love Letter Script + Stationery + Envelope

AUGUST

Your Date
Bookstore Date
Your Intimacy Idea
School of Love Instructions + Invitation + Extra Credit Coupons + Sexy School Uniform Iron-on
Your Love Letter
August Love Letter Script + Stationery + Envelope

SEPTEMBER

Your Date
Power Outage Date
Your Intimacy Idea
Tent Invitation + WonderFALL Camp Sign + Camp Signs + Glamping Bingo + Bingo Tokens
Your Love Letter
September Love Letter Script + Stationery + Envelope

OCTOBER

Your Date
Love on the Run Date
Your Intimacy Idea
Haunted Naughty Night Admission Ticket + Pick Your Poison Tag + Anatomy Quiz + Love Notes
Your Love Letter
October Love Letter Script + Stationery + Envelope

NOVEMBER

Your Date
Spouse Sleepover Date
Your Intimacy Idea
Give Thanks Invitation + Gratitude Chain Printables + Stats Card
Your Love Letter
November Love Letter Script + Stationery + Envelope

DECEMBER

Your Date
Reindeer Games Date
Your Intimacy Idea
Naughty and Nice Invitation + Activity Book + Naughty and Nice Cards + Naughty and Nice Certificates + Report Card
Your Love Letter
December Love Letter Script + Stationery + Envelope

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