Firefighter Wife http://firefighterwife.com Strengthening Marriages. Nurturing Fire Wife Friendships. Encouraging Strong Fire Wives. Sun, 19 May 2013 23:35:14 +0000 en-US hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5.1 10 Things I Learned in One Year as a Fire Wife Blogger http://firefighterwife.com/blog/2013/05/19/10-things-i-learned-in-one-year-as-a-fire-wife-blogger/ http://firefighterwife.com/blog/2013/05/19/10-things-i-learned-in-one-year-as-a-fire-wife-blogger/#comments Sun, 19 May 2013 23:35:14 +0000 Lori Mercer - WifeOnFire http://firefighterwife.com/?p=3625 This weekend marks exactly one year since I took over running this website and posted my introductory post here. Since then we’ve grown by over 10,000 fans on our Facebook page and 1200 members in our Private Wives group. Most importantly, I’ve learned a lot of life lessons from our Fire Wife community. Here’s just a few…. 1. There are many people in this world who are hurting and seeking and looking for inspiration and encouragement to get through everyday. And it is so easy to serve them with daily encouraging words And we all need a little challenge and motivation in our life to keep growing. #firestrong is our mantra around here. It means a lot. A whole lot. It took almost a whole year to capture all its meaning and I’m certain we aren’t done yet. But you can read more about it here. 2. There is ALWAYS another Fire Wife who has already experienced this challenge I’m facing right now. There is never a post that goes unanswered in our Private Wives Group. And even when there are different opinions, the fire wives truly know how to share a strong word in a healthy manner. That is so rare for such a large group of women that I am just in wonder and awe at that instant sisterhood. I don’t have any sisters. Now I feel like I have thousands. 3. Online friendships are just not enough when there is truly a sisterhood. Fire Wives want to ...

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]]> http://firefighterwife.com/blog/2013/05/19/10-things-i-learned-in-one-year-as-a-fire-wife-blogger/feed/ 0 Girl Talk Once Again http://firefighterwife.com/blog/2013/05/14/girl-talk-once-again/ http://firefighterwife.com/blog/2013/05/14/girl-talk-once-again/#comments Tue, 14 May 2013 17:07:17 +0000 Lori Mercer - WifeOnFire http://firefighterwife.com/?p=3613 As administrator of this site, I’m always on the lookout for great resources to help fire wives. And you all may realize I try to be a pretty healthy and active person too. So when I saw this, I thought hmmmmm….these guys are onto something! Yes we have Fit Fire Wife, and yes we are launching Fire Up Your Love Life. But this free video series is going to bring us some expertise in this area. It’s about natural ways to “get your sexyback”. I know we’ve talked about it here. Our hormones shift and we don’t always feel like we got out groove on. So I encourage you to check out this free video summit. And be ready to share your thoughts in our Fire Up Your Love Life group that is coming soon. Click this link for details http://bit.ly/10wtS3U Can sex-related health challenges be solved through natural means? For women — issues like PMS, frequent UTIs, yeast infections, an inability to reach climax, or even a non-existent libido that’s more than likely causing relationship problems. For men — low testosterone, high estrogen, E.D., a dwindling sex drive, or simply not feeling like the man you once were. Absolutely! And that’s why my friend Sean Croxton put together the upcoming SexyBack Summit to show you EXACTLY how to get your sexy back…naturally. Plus, it’s totally FREE for you to attend! To get you ready for the summit, Sean recorded a series of video interviews with his sexpert presenters. He’s ...

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]]> http://firefighterwife.com/blog/2013/05/14/girl-talk-once-again/feed/ 0 Announcing Our Flame Fest Contest http://firefighterwife.com/blog/2013/05/13/announcing-our-flame-fest-contest/ http://firefighterwife.com/blog/2013/05/13/announcing-our-flame-fest-contest/#comments Mon, 13 May 2013 19:12:33 +0000 Lori Mercer - WifeOnFire http://firefighterwife.com/?p=3588 It’s the FIRST EVER National Gathering for Fire Wives so of course we must have some big deal contests to go along with this monumental occasion. When we started the Private Wives Group last year there were instant friendships and very rapidly we all wanted to meet each other in person and have this girl talk face to face.   I took a big leap of faith when I signed the contract in November to kick off this event and it hasn’t been disappointing. Here we are now at the final window of opportunity to register and attend the inaugural Flame Fest 2013! And you definitely want to be here in year one because I have a very special gift for each of you for being the ground breakers…..Flame Fest Challenge Coins for every attendee! We will also have some special announcements that will happen only at Flame Fest. The Pink Heals Fire Truck will make an appearance! Meet The Dating Divas in person! Tara Carson and Wendy Jackman will share with us fun ways to keep “dating your husband” plus you will receive an exclusive Firefighter Wife Date Night Kit! Meet Author and Speaker Marla Taviano of “Husband’s Guide to Getting Lucky” and “Once Upon the Internet” Marla traveled the world with her family staying only with people she had be-friended online through her blog.   New Product Announcement Exclusive to FirefighterWife.com by MN8 Foxfire We are announcing an exclusive new product partnership with MN8 Foxfire that is designed specifically ...

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]]> http://firefighterwife.com/blog/2013/05/13/announcing-our-flame-fest-contest/feed/ 19 Fire Strong Moms http://firefighterwife.com/blog/2013/05/11/fire-strong-moms/ http://firefighterwife.com/blog/2013/05/11/fire-strong-moms/#comments Sat, 11 May 2013 14:26:52 +0000 Lori Mercer - WifeOnFire http://firefighterwife.com/?p=3580 There are some of our mom’s who deserve more than a day a year in their honor.  These moms have gone above and beyond the call of duty.  Here are the three winners of our Facebook Page Fire Strong Mom contest. Each of these mom’s will be receiving a Fire Strong Bracelet or T-Shirt. Molly B. My parents married when my mom was eighteen. They struggled with infertility for twelve years before they conceived and had me and my two younger siblings. My mom sacrificed her career to come home and be a mom and housewife, and she home schooled us from K-12th. I have always admired her strength and sacrifice for us, but it wasn’t until my dad was diagnosed with cancer that I truly saw her strength. It was only 46 days from his diagnosis that he passed away. Stunned, my siblings and I (ages 16, 17, 21) didn’t know what to do. She was our strength as we watched her step into the workforce for the first time in twenty years. She had never even pumped her own gas before! She supported us all through college, and continues to be our rock. Last Two years ago, she met and married a wonderful man. Last September, we lost him in a tragic car accident. Once again, I’ve seen her inner strength and beauty surpass her grief. She is my inspiration, and I hope my girls see even just an ounce of her grace and strength in me one ...

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]]> http://firefighterwife.com/blog/2013/05/11/fire-strong-moms/feed/ 0 Fire Up Your Love Life http://firefighterwife.com/blog/2013/05/10/fire-up-your-love-life/ http://firefighterwife.com/blog/2013/05/10/fire-up-your-love-life/#comments Fri, 10 May 2013 16:26:21 +0000 Lori Mercer - WifeOnFire http://firefighterwife.com/?p=3565 I am so excited to announce a new feature on FirefighterWife.com entitled “Fire Up Your Love Life” as we welcome a new partner, Heather Isaacs.  Heather is one of our administrators in the Private Wives Group and one of my biggest personal cheerleaders when life gets tough keeping this site and community all together.  She is *madly* in love with her husband all while holding down a full time corporate job and juggling 5 kids between the two of them.  Can you say superwoman?    As our community has grown, I’ve been privileged to share with Heather behind the scenes our passion for improving our marriages.  And this includes making love to your husbands ladies.  Regularly and enjoyably.  She and I both realized that there is a lack of understanding, desire and even just a forum to discuss this topic when you have a question or concern.   So Heather has stepped up to help us out in this area as she has signed on as a consultant for Pure Romance and will be a guest writer and community coordinator helping us “Fire Up Your Love Life.”   This does not mean getting all freaky and kinky in ways that make you blush (although you can if you’re game for that.)   This is about tasteful and helpful products and information to make your love life as enjoyable as it’s meant to be.   Stay tuned for details for our new private area where you can have confidential, discrete and classy conversation about ...

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]]> http://firefighterwife.com/blog/2013/05/10/fire-up-your-love-life/feed/ 0 No Glitter, All Heart: A Firefighter Wife’s View of FDIC http://firefighterwife.com/blog/2013/05/10/no-glitter-all-heart-a-firefighter-wifes-view-of-fdic/ http://firefighterwife.com/blog/2013/05/10/no-glitter-all-heart-a-firefighter-wifes-view-of-fdic/#comments Fri, 10 May 2013 14:08:27 +0000 Lori Mercer - WifeOnFire http://firefighterwife.com/?p=3532 I’ve missed the buzz of the excitement just post FDIC but honestly I was reeling from all the wonderful contacts and follow ups after the show.  If I had to sum it up in a couple short words, it would be No Glitter.  All Heart. What’s up with the glitter?  You may remember this cartoon posted the week or so before FDIC and lots of apprehensive and anxious fire wives who’s hubbies were leaving them for a week to great big land of the unknown rumored to be occupied by scantily clad firefighter seeking women with no respect for the wedding ring. I’ll admit.  5-10 years ago I was totally that wife.  He left me for a week with 3 children not yet old enough to head off to school, using our vacation time, spending money out of our own pocket for training that he just couldn’t pass up.   Then he’d be unreachable the whole time he was there.  Have like 10 minutes to call me after a quick shower before heading out to a late “steak dinner with the guys”.  Uh huh.  My young immature self had trouble buying all of that.  But the truth is this.   A big part of FDIC is the hands on training the guys can receive.  So truthfully my husband would be out doing some structural collapse class all day, working himself to exhaustion without stopping and then rushing off to a dinner with instructors he was dying to rub elbows with and learn ...

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]]> http://firefighterwife.com/blog/2013/05/10/no-glitter-all-heart-a-firefighter-wifes-view-of-fdic/feed/ 0 Assist Your Fit Fire Wife Goals with a Hormone Check http://firefighterwife.com/blog/2013/05/06/fitfirewifehormone/ http://firefighterwife.com/blog/2013/05/06/fitfirewifehormone/#comments Mon, 06 May 2013 16:26:01 +0000 Lori Mercer - WifeOnFire http://firefighterwife.com/?p=3514 I’m excited to welcome a special guest blogger, fire wife Kim Larsen, who has a great personal story about her fitness journey in regards to hormones.  Our bodies are mass chemistry experiments and different substances can get out of whack for a variety of reasons.  So we encourage you to read this and investigate what’s going on with your body.  We are all meant to feel vibrant and alive, not exhausted and spent.  Hope this gives you the spark to investigate what’s going on in your body.  Lori Mercer @wifeonfire It’s not gross. It’s not taboo. And it does NOT mean you are getting old! Hormones. Yuck. Nobody likes to talk about them. We think of hormones as an excuse for our rotten behavior towards our husbands, our mood swings, our teary eyes. But they are OOOHHHHH so much more than that. Hormones play are role in almost everything that we do. Sleep, work, exercise, relationships, sex. We’d never make it a day with out our hormones. But did you know that, as early as in your twenties, women begin to loose their hormones? Check out these symptoms: **FATIGUE- ie: A lack of energy; A hard time getting out of bed; late afternoon “crash”; want to go to bed at 7:45-8:00pm; cant stray awake through the 7:00pm rerun of Seinfeld. **DECREASED SEX DRIVE- ie:   Low libido, lack of romantic interest or fantasy, no flirtatious behavior; sometimes to the point of the thought makes you sick! **DECREASE IN MENTAL CLARITY- ie:  inability to quickly solve ...

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]]> http://firefighterwife.com/blog/2013/05/06/fitfirewifehormone/feed/ 0 Marriage Suppport http://firefighterwife.com/marriage/ http://firefighterwife.com/marriage/#comments Wed, 01 May 2013 13:33:26 +0000 Lori Mercer - WifeOnFire http://firefighterwife.com/?page_id=3480 When someone asks me what the main mission is here at FirefighterWife.com my answer is short and sweet. Less Divorce.  Stronger Fire Wives. Marriage isn’t easy.  Throw in the complications of the fire life and it sometimes feels impossible.  Long hours at the job.  A “second family”.  Stressful calls.  Sleepless nights.  PTSD.  Interrupted communications.  Your schedule not matching the rest of the worlds.  Missed holidays.  The list goes on. We are here to Rescue and Strengthen Fire Marriages Here are some resources to help you work through those tough spots.  Having been divorced once, it is something I NEVER recommend to anyone without first fighting like mad to save your marriage. *Disclaimer:  If you are being physically or verbally abused, we want you to seek help immediately.  Try TheHotline.org for immediate support. Do “The Love Dare” Watch the Fireproof movie and do the 40 day Love Dare devotional book either alone or with your spouse.  Either way your marriage will end up in a better place. You can sign up to receive a daily Love Dare email Firefighter Wife style to follow along. Click here to register   Read Our Story of Marriage Survival I started blogging about being a fire wife right around our 10 year wedding anniversary.  By then we had grown so much, through so many trials.  Although not without fault and problems, we feel so much better equipped and committed to each other than other before.   When I blogged about the ugly hot mess that was ...

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]]> http://firefighterwife.com/marriage/feed/ 0 Help for Handling a Crisis http://firefighterwife.com/crisis/ http://firefighterwife.com/crisis/#comments Wed, 01 May 2013 13:21:27 +0000 Lori Mercer - WifeOnFire http://firefighterwife.com/?page_id=3466 Here at FirefigterWife.com we have the Fire Wife Sisterhood to encourage and support each other through the unique challenges of being married to a firefighter.   But sometimes those challenges require professional support that even your local department is unable to provide through their programs. Line of Duty Death, those awful calls involving loss of a child or inability to help someone in need.  Even just the stress of dealing with sleep interruption or the day to day battles with depression and anxiety that so many of us face in a season of our life but are exasperated by the stresses of a first responders job. Our partner Safe Call Now is there for exactly these moments for your firefighter to make an anonymous call to a support line for help.  They will talk to your firefighter 24/7 and also get you connected with the best organizations for professional support in your area For friendship and encouragement along the way, join the Fire Wife Sisterhood. We aren’t professional counselors but we all know what it’s like to be married to a firefighter.  It’s a sisterhood you automatically belong to when you married him and we are a community here to support you, laugh with you and keep you Fire Strong.

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]]> http://firefighterwife.com/crisis/feed/ 0 Welcome to Fit Fire Wife! http://firefighterwife.com/fitfirewifethanks/ http://firefighterwife.com/fitfirewifethanks/#comments Mon, 29 Apr 2013 17:29:49 +0000 Lori Mercer - WifeOnFire http://firefighterwife.com/?page_id=3461 We received your request to join our Fit Fire Wife program. And there is just one more step to access our Fit Fire Wife group on facebook.  If you have not already, you need to send a friend request to Lori Mercer or Jessica Jackson on Facebook.  Once you are friends, you will be added to our facebook group for Fit Fire Wife. Get started right away….. You can choose to follow tips from all of the Fit Fire Wife experts or just one program in particular.  Each of our coaches will provide in depth knowledge of their programs throughout the month of May and be available to answer your questions and comments. You can do this at no cost with just you and what you have at home.  But if you’d like a little something to get you over that hurdle, our sponsors in May offer special shakes, diets and programs that you can purchase to help you along. Click here to review the programs of our Fit Fire Wives.  Kristen, Heather and Jennifer will be leading in May and each have a series of products you can get started with right away. Disclaimer:  As with all fitness programs….what are you supposed to do?  CHECK WITH YOUR PHYSICIAN if you have any serious questions.  We are NOT doctors.  Just cheerleaders who have had some amazing results!!! Fit Fire Wife Blog Series Start here:  Fit Fire Wife Day 1 - Goal Setting and Picking Your Programs Fit Fire Wife Day 2 ...

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