Less Divorce. Stronger Fire Wives.
Having been divorced once, it is something I NEVER recommend to anyone without first fighting like mad to save your marriage. Marriage isn’t easy. Throw in the complications of the fire life and it sometimes feels impossible. Long hours at the job. A “second family”. Stressful calls. Sleepless nights. PTSD. Interrupted communications. Your schedule not matching the rest of the world’s. Missed holidays. The list goes on.
Get Connected with Those Who “Get” the Fire Life.
It may seem like your friends and family don’t get the fire life. They may not understand why you want to keep your schedule free on the days your firefighter is home. They may not understand why you take your phone everywhere with you. They may not understand lonely nights and holidays when your firefighter is on shift.
We are here to Rescue and Strengthen Fire Marriages
Here are some resources to help you work through those tough spots.
*Disclaimer: If you are being physically or verbally abused, we want you to seek help immediately. Try TheHotline.org for immediate support.
Read Our Story of Marriage Survival
I started blogging about being a fire wife right around our 10 year wedding anniversary. By then we had grown so much, through so many trials. Although not without fault and problems, we feel so much better equipped and committed to each other than other before. When I blogged about the ugly hot mess that was our marriage, I realized I’d struck a nerve and a big need in our community. Read here our story and we hope it encourages you to never stop working on your marriage.
Click here: Marriage On Fire Program
Our new 6-week program designed by first responders, for first responders. Whether you’ve been married for 1 day, 1 year, 10 years or 50 years, marriage requires constant attention. And when work and kids and finances and calendars seem to take over all your discussions and time, it’s easy to forget that you used to be head over heels in love with constant butterflies around your husband / wife.
Why does that need to end? Let’s take a break from the busy-ness of life and date each other again! Take the journey together to focus on Commitment, Connection, Confidence, Communication, (Com)Passion, and Community to grow your marriage and fan the flames of love!
Do “The Love Dare”
Are you in a marriage slump? Or just missing the excitement in your marriage? Watch the Fireproof movie and do the 40 day Love Dare devotional book either alone or with your spouse. Either way your marriage will end up in a better place.
You can sign up to receive a daily Love Dare email Firefighter Wife style to follow along. Click here to register
Read the Best Firefighter Marriage Blog Posts
Click HERE for our view on The 5 Love Languages.
We think it’s an easy read and a must do for every marriage so that you learn how to love each other in the BEST way.
Read the all time favorite blog posts:
- When He Doesn’t Say He’s Sorry
- Disarming Your Irritable Sleep Deprived Firefighter
- I Used to Hate his Firehouse
- 5 Things You Should Know About the Firehouse from a Firefighter Husband
- How do I Survive on Only 15 Minutes of Conversation with my Firefighter Each Day?
- It’s Not Nice to Push, Especially Your Spouse
- Our Marriage is Sexless
- Think Pornography Isn’t Affecting You?
- A Firefighter Marriage Story – Surviving Infidelity
- Now a Word from a Firefighter Husband, Act Natural
Open up and Talk
Whether it’s dealing with pure physical or emotional exhaustion, daily struggles with depression and anxiety increased by job stresses, broken trust, infidelity, or you are struggling in your marriage period, you don’t need to go through it alone.
THERAPY FOR FIRST RESPONDERS AND THEIR FAMILIES.
ON-DEMAND. ANYTIME. ANYPLACE.
Are you in a marriage crisis? Join Rescue My Marriage
New Rescue My Marriage program coming soon!
There are topics that are too big to handle on our own.
Go to counseling if you need to (we’ve all done it). There are topics we have to tell you straight up that we can’t diagnose and counsel you through in our 24-7 COMMITMENT community. Even if your spouse doesn’t want to go with you, go on your own. It works. I’ve been there on multiple occasions and I would bet that 95% of all the other Fire Wives will tell you the same thing.
Call your department. Ask about an EAP program (Employee Assistance Program). Call a local church with a counseling center.
If you don’t like the first counselor you go to, try another. Just go.
Never Stop Learning About Marriage
Re-ignite the Flames in the Bedroom!
Whether you are more on the wild side or the conservative side, this eBook will light a fire in your bedroom for you sure. There is something for everyone.
And for those of you who may not be hearing this at your church, I’m a Jesus freak and I’ve read Song of Solomon. And I’m certain he wants us to be having amazingly hot sex with our husbands. If somethings broken there, time to fix it.
When all else fails, Work on You
What if he doesn’t want to work on your marriage? It won’t hurt anything for you to work on yourself. What’s going on in your head? How do you physically feel? Get active. Read a book. Pray. Join one of our programs here online.
We can’t fully engage in a healthy relationship unless we’ve got our feet squarely on the ground and our head on straight as well. In the moments when I was most frustrated with my marriage, I had to turn my focus on being a better me so I’d have the patience and endurance to love him in the midst of his storm.