This is a suggestion, but it is a very major one.

I know that I am a “newbie” to the paid fire family, only 2.5 years in. But he has been in the service for a total of almost 10 years and he and I have been together for 19 and married for 15 of those!

So while I’m newbie to fire service, I am old hat at relationship/marriage. YOU MUST BE A PART OF HIS MAJOR LIFE.

This goes with anything in a relationship. If something is major in your life, your partner must play a part in it. I would love to partake in any study about it and push others to do the same.

I’m 200% in my hubbies fire family and fire life. HELL, the other night I went down to the station for 2 hours and helped him with his OT work so I could hang out with him.

But that wasn’t what prompted this post. The total awesomeness of the baby shower we went to is the reason for this post. They had guys and gals showers and the friends live next door to each other. It was easy for it all to merge into 1 party by the afternoon. We all knew it would that’s how it works

The beer flowed. I know that surprises everyone. A few shots of course, as well as 2 giant BBQ’s and a smoker rocking out food non-stop. I ended up chatting with someone that I’m sure hubby would have preferred I didn’t. BUT, alas it is my part in life. I talked to this guy and his wife NEVER comes to any events or parties. They don’t live in district, which is another post on my list, but she just doesn’t want to be a part of it.

To me, this is truly sad. She has no comprehension of how much of his life this is. She doesn’t understand how much he needs this party to unwind with everyone. But she also doesn’t have the option to vent and chat with all of the guys and their wives and girlfriends. I get to vent with people that understand. I get to yell at the guys for being asses on a call if hubby has said it’s ok to. I get to make fun of the guys I’m good friends with about anything on the face of the earth and I most importantly get to chat and hug my girls that live this same life I do.

It had been way too long since our last big get together and I hope it doesn’t go as long this time. But even though hubby may kill me, this guy really wants me to meet his wife. WELL DUH! Of course he does. I’ve run into very few guys that didn’t tell me they want a wife like me