You Made it to Day 3 of The Love Dare!
(You can read more details explaining how we are doing the dare here: The Love Dare with FirefighterWife)
Love is not selfish
Be devoted to one another in brotherly love;
give preference to one another in honor.
Excerpt from The Love Dare Book
“Nobody knows you as well as your spouse. And that means no one will be quicker to recognize a change when you deliberately start sacrificing your wants and wishes to make sure his or her needs are met.
If you find it hard to sacrifice your own desires to benefit your spouse, then you may have a deeper problem with selfishness than you want to admit.”
Ask yourself these questions:
• Do I truly want what’s best for my husband or wife?
• Do I want them to feel loved by me?
• Do they believe I have their best interests in mind?
• Do they see me as looking out for myself first?
Whether you like it or not, you have a reputation in the eyes of those around you, especially in the eyes of your spouse. But is it a loving reputation? Remember, your marriage partner also has the challenge of loving a selfish person. So determine to be the first to demonstrate real love to them, with your eyes wide open. And when all is said and done, you’ll both be more fulfilled.”
Whatever you put your time, energy, and money into will become more important to you. It’s hard to care for something you are not investing in. Along with restraining from negative comments, buy your spouse something that says, “I was thinking of you today.”
Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit
but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves.
How are you doing?
Has it been easy, or are you struggling?
Have shift days made it easier or harder to complete your dares?
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