The Love Dare – Day 6

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You can read more details explaining how we are doing the dare here at The Love Dare with FirefighterWife.

Love is not irritable

He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty,
and he who rules his spirit, than he who captures a city.

Proverbs 16:32


Excerpt from The Love Dare Book:

Why do people become irritable?  

Stress.  Stress weighs you down, drains your energy, weakens your health, and invites you to be cranky.  It can be brought on by the relational causes: arguing, division, and the bitterness.  There are excessive causes: overworking, overplaying, and overspending.  And there are deficiencies: not get enough rest, nutrition, or exercise.  Oftentimes we inflict these daggers on ourselves, and this sets us up to be irritable.

Life is a marathon, not a sprint.  This means you must balance, prioritize, and pace yourself.  Too often we throw caution to the wind and run full steam ahead, doing what feels right at the moment.  Soon we are gasping for air, wound up in knots, and ready to snap.  The increasing pressure can wear away at our patience and our relationship.

So on Day 5, there seemed to be a lot of grumpy firefighters running around.  And a lot of discussion amongst us wives of how it’s understandable due to his lack of sleep or stressful day at the station.  So the above paragraph really helps us to see that.   But Day 6 also says this:

A loving wife is not overly sensitive or cranky but exercise emotional self-control.
She chooses to be a flower among the thorns and respond pleasantly during prickly situations.

I know we have a tough schedule on Day 6 with 3 soccer games back to back and hubby at the station.  It’s likely I’ll get a little irritable towards the kids!  Going to make a strong effort to keep this in mind throughout the day:

“I always do my best to have a clear conscience towards God and men.  Acts 24:16

Today’s Dare

Choose today to react to tough circumstances in your marriage in loving ways instead of with irritation. Begin by making a list of areas where you need to add margin to your schedule. Then list any wrong motivations that you need to release from your life.



When have you recently overreacted?  What was your real motivation behind it? Share your thoughts below.

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  2. Tammie

    Really struggling. He keeps asking what I’m up to. I don’t want to tell him. He struggles because we have 4 teenagers all girls and his whole focus is on protecting them. He loses sight of just loving us and me where we are. I guess one day at a time. I’m a day or two behind because our 16 year old was in the hospital. I really pray that this rebuilds a love bond. We have a great friendship, but sometimes it feels like there is nothing more than that. I want intimacy and love. Please pray we find it

    • Carolyn

      I totally am in the same boat with you. I feel like my Husband and I are just roommates. I am on day 5 and he made a comment yesterday that the past 5 days we have gotten along great. He mentioned yesterday that he is starting to love me like he did along time ago. This is my second attempt at the Love Dare with my Firefighter. The first attempt I gave up when I met resistance. Stay strong sister, and don’t give up. Praying for you,

  3. Bryan

    This is my second round on the love dare as my wife has cheated on me twice, been talking with other guys. We have 4 kids and I’m doing everything I can to just be noticed. She lives on her phone and I got so irritated but don’t want to make her mad. She says she wants to seperate and divorce but won’t go through with the paper work. Just need prayers

    • Jessie -

      So sorry to read that, Bryan. We know the Love Dare isn’t a fix all but we do love that it helps us be the best version of ourselves. Even if our spouses do not recognize that. We always suggest counseling if at all possible. You can only control your actions and we feel like we can all benefit from counseling whether it be with a pastor, counselor or wise family/friend that has your best interests at heart. It’s hard, we hear you and you’re in our prayers.

  4. Anna Carter

    I really love the comments on todays dare. I feel very hopeful for my marriage… sometimes its hard for me to see past my own hang ups though! Asking for prayer for my husband I.



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