The Love Dare – Day 12

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(You can read more details explaining how we are doing the dare here:  The Love Dare with FirefighterWife)

Love Lets the Other Win

Do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests others.

Philippians 2:4

Excerpt from The Love Dare Book:

“All it takes for your present arguments to continue is for both of you to stay entrenched and unbending.  But the very moment one of you says, “I’m willing to go your way on this one,” the argument will be over.  And though the follow-through may cost you some pride and discomfort, you have made a loving, lasting investment in your marriage.

“Yes, but then I’ll look foolish.  “I’ll lose the fight.  I’ll lose control.”  You’ve already looked foolish by being bullheaded and refusing to listen.  You’ve already lost the fight by making this issue more important than your marriage and your spouse’s sense of worth.  You may have already lost emotional control by saying things that got personal and hurt your mate.

The wise and loving thing to do is to start approaching your disagreements with a willingness to not always insist on your own way.  That’s not to say your mate is necessarily right or being wise about a matter, but you are choosing to give strong consideration to their preference as a way of valuing them.”

So many petty arguments I can think of here.  My hubby and I had major (stupid!) fights when we were building our house.  Things like “wood spindles or knee wall around the loft?”  Simply ridiculous.   And today in the Firefighter Wife private group there was a great discussion about whether or not your firefighter wears his wedding band on the job.   The reason a lot of guys don’t is due to possible serious injury if it got caught on equipment.   Aren’t these both easy arguments to just drop in honor of valuing your marriage more than a minor personal preference?

“ If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men. (Romans 12:18)”

Today’s Dare

Demonstrate love by willingly choosing to give in to an area of disagreement between you and your spouse.  Tell them you are putting their preference first.



Big question for the fire wives…..which petty firehouse-rooted argument are you willing to bend on?  Wearing the wedding ring?  Leaving boots around the house?


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