Day 15

(You can read more details explaining how we are doing the dare here:

Love is Honorable

Live with your wives in an understanding way … and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life.  – 1 Peter 3:7

Excerpt from The Love Dare Book:

“…There’s another word that calls us to a higher place, a word that isn’t often equated with marriage, though its relevance cannot be understated.  It’s a word that actually forms the basis for honor – the very reason why we give respect and high regard to our husband or wife.  That word is holy.

To say to your mate should be “holy” to you doesn’t mean that he or she is perfect. Holiness means they are set apart for a higher purpose – no longer common or everyday but special and unique.  A person who has become holy to you has a place no one can rival in your heart.  He or she is sacred to you, a person to be honored, praised, and defended.


Perhaps you don’t feel this way and maybe for good reason. Perhaps you wish some outsider could see the level of disrespect you get from your wife or husband – someone who would make your mate feel embarrassed to be exposed for who they really are behind closed doors.

 But that’s not the issue with love.  Love honors even when it’s rejected.  Love treats its beloved as special and sacred even when an ungrateful attitude is all you get in return.

So here we are at Day 15.  Day 40 still seems so far away.

And maybe you’re sick of seeing these posts.  Maybe your spouse hasn’t shown the first sign of a rekindled love.  Maybe you are growing weary and tired of this exercise.   This is when you must push on.  Talk to the others who are doing this dare.  You are not the only one feeling this way.  And you are the one who has the ability to rekindle your marriage.  God will not abandon you in this prayer.

If you are feeling stuck and alone in this way, I encourage you to reach out to others who are doing this dare.  Email me if you want more privacy: contact at firefighterwife dot com.

This is the time to push on with hope and joyful anticipation.

I will also honor them and they will not be insignificant.  (Jeremiah 30:19)

Today’s Dare

Choose a way to show honor and respect to your spouse that is above your normal routine.  It may be holding the door for her. It might be putting his clothes away for him.  It may be the way you listen and speak in your communication.  Show your mate that he or she is highly esteemed in your eyes.

KLove Radio Station did The Love Dare and has a daily post (with copyright approval from the publisher).  You can find it here (especially if your book has not arrived yet!)

How are you doing?  Has it been easy?  Struggling?

Big question for the fire wives… do you feel about using the word “holy” to describe your firefighter?


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Men, we applaud you for the intentional steps you are taking here to focus on your marriage.  Join other men who are devoted to the fire service and their marriage as well in The Honor Guard.

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On a mission to be and inspire us all to be better humans, to strengthen fire families & marriages, to nurture and encourage fire wives, do "good business" in all areas of my life and of course, love on my 4 kids.