(You can read more details explaining how we are doing the dare here: The Love Dare with FirefighterWife)
Love is Faithful
I will betroth you to Me in faithfulness. Then you will know the Lord.
Hosea 2:20
Excerpt from The Love Dare Book:
“”Love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return; and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High; for He Himself is kind to ungrateful and evil men” (Luke 6:35).
From the vantage point of the wedding altar, you would never have dreamed that the person you married might later become to you a kind of “enemy,” one you would need to love as an act of almost total sacrifice. And yet far too often in marriage, the relationship does indeed dwindle down to that level. Even to the point of betrayal or, sadly, to unfaithfulness.
For many, this is the beginning of the end. Some respond by rapidly moving toward a tragic divorce. Others, more protective of their reputation than even their own happiness, decide to keep the charade going. But they have no intention of liking it–much less of loving each other again.”
From Pinterest
“I have chosen the faithful way. (Psalm 119:30)”
Today’s Dare
Love is a choice, not a feeling. It is an initiated action, not a knee-jerk reaction. Choose today to be committed to love even if your spouse has lost most of their interest in receiving it. Say to them today in words similar to these, “I love you. Period. I choose to love you even if you don’t love me in return.”
How are you doing? Has it been easy? Struggling?
Big question for the fire wives…..what is your favorite daily devotional or favorite way to read the bible every day?
(note: this might be a very private topic for you. If so, you can always reach me at contact#!&@firefighterwife.com.
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It’s funny you know how life sometimes beats you to the punch. When I read this my eyes literally bugged out of my head. (or at least that’s what it felt like) To keep a long story short(er than it could be) – my hubs and I were in the process of deciding whether or not now was the right time for our family to sell our house and buy a bigger house that we can grow into only to discover that we really could not afford what we would like right now, and there isnt much point to moving up to something that you are still going to need to move out of. However my hubs did not take the news so lightly he reacted badly, flipped out if you will. His exact words ‘this is f*** stupid, I f*** give up I just give up theres no point in anything because nothing will ever work. I was so much happier when I was single and had money.’ I said dear we will discuss this later. Sooo later we discussed it he had himself a big ol’ pity party griping about everything under the sun to the point of not even making sense (I’ll spare you the details there) I said so money and stuff make you happy? he said yes. I said would you be happier without me? he said I don’t know I’m not without you am I? I said – Because I refuse to be the reason for your unhappiness. I love you enough to want you to be happy even if that is without me. He said over and over again – I give up on everything theres no point. and my reply was “you can give up for awhile if you need to but just know that no matter what I will never give up on you or give up on us.” That ended the pity party/session and the next morning I just kept in my head – I love my husband when he doesnt deserve it because God loves me when I don’t deserve it. I got out of bed and he asked what are you doing and I said going to make you some breakfast. He seemed confused as to why I wasnt shutting him out and acting in anger but since then he has done a complete 180 acting politely being extra courteous and loving.
I gotta say this love dare has changed my life and how I see my marriage. Sorry for the extra long comment but this all happened like 4 days before I read this and it just fit so perfectly!!
OH my dear you could have rewritten a page out of my life. It’s so hard when the men we look to to lead our households get so down and discouraged. Your response was perfect. I need to save this somewhere and remember the next time I face this challenge. so so so happy to hear of the good works coming out of the Love Dare!!!
Big giant hugs my friend 🙂