(You can read more details explaining how we are doing the dare here: https://firefighterwife.com/fireproof-your-marriage/)
Love vs. Lust
The world is passing away, and also its lusts; but the one who does the will of God lives forever. – 1 John 2:17
Excerpt from The Love Dare Book:
“God’s blessings, however, go so far beyond these fundamental needs, we could rightly say that we want for nothing. Yet like Adam and Eve, we still want more. So we set our eyes and hearts on seeking worldly pleasure. We try to meet legitimate needs in illegitimate ways. For many it’s seeking sexual fulfillment in another person or in pornographic images designed to feel like a real person. We look, stare, and fantasize. We try to be discreet but barely turn our eyes away. And once our eyes are capture by curiosity, our hearts become entangled. Then we act on our lust.
We can also lust after possessions or power or prideful ambition. We see what others have and we want it. Our hearts are deceived into saying, “I could be happy if I only had this.” Then we make the decision to go after it.
“But those who want to get rich fall into temptation and a snare and many foolish and harmful desires which plunge men into ruin and destruction” (1 Timothy 6:9).
set your eyes and heart on your spouse again. “Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth … Be exhilarated always with her love. For why should you, my son, be exhilarated with an adulteress and embrace the bosom of a foreigner? For the ways of a man are before the eyes of the Lord, and He watches all his paths” (Proverbs 5:18-21).
“Do not love the world nor the things in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him” (1 John 2:15). Lust is the best this world has to offer, but love offers you the best life in the world..”
It’s scary how quickly a thought can turn to action and before you know. Boom. You’re right in the middle of a sin. I really enjoyed the reminder to be lustful after my husband, like in the “days of our youth” when we were first dating. And to be satisfied by all that God has given me instead of looking to something else I’d rather have. I once heard a sermon that knocked me off my feet. He basically said “If you are not satisfied with something, you are sinning. You are displeasing God.” Whoa. I’d never looked at it that way before.
“Act as free men, and do not use your freedom as a covering for evil. (1 Peter 2:16)“
End it now. Identify every object of lust in your life and remove it. Single out every lie you’ve swallowed in pursuing forbidden pleasure and reject it. Lust cannot be allowed to live in a back bedroom. It must be killed and destroyed – today – and replaced with the sure promises of God and a heart filled with His perfect love.
KLove Radio Station did The Love Dare and has a daily post (with copyright approval from the publisher). You can find it here (especially if your book has not arrived yet!)
How are you doing? Has it been easy? Struggling?
Big question for the fire wives…..do you remember the romanticism of when you were first dating? If he was a firefighter then, remember the pride of being loved by a man so brave?
(note: if you have a very private topic to discuss, you can always reach me at contact at firefighterwife dot com)
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Please share your thoughts, challenges, successes and encouragement for everyone participating in The Love Dare in any of our available communities: The FirefighterWife and our 24-7 Commitment Fire Family Life Pages on Facebook, or in our Private Online Communities, The Fire Wife Sisterhood for women and the 24-7 Commitment Honor Guard for men. Support is invaluable!
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