(You can read more details explaining how we are doing the dare here: https://firefighterwife.com/fireproof-your-marriage/)
What I have forgiven, if I have forgiven anything, I did it for your sakes in the presence of Christ. – 2 Corinthians 2:10
Excerpt from The Love Dare Book:
“This one is tough – perhaps the toughest dare in the book. But if there is to be any hope for your marriage, this is a challenge that must absolutely be taken seriously. Counselors and ministers who deal with broken couples on a regular basis will tell you that this is the most complex problem of all, a rupture that is often the last to be repaired. It cannot just be considered and contemplated but must be deliberately put into practice. Forgiveness has to happen, or a successful marriage won’t.
How do you know you’ve done it? You know it when the thought of their name or the sight of their face – rather than causing your blood to boil – causes you to feel sorry for them instead, to pity them, to genuinely hope they get this turned around.
There’s so much more that could be said and so many emotional issues you may need to fight through to get there. But great marriages are not created by people who never hurt each other, only by people who choose to keep “no record of wrongs” (1 Corinthians 13:5).”
The thought of their name causes your blood to boil
You know the reaction. There are people that when you think of them you get physical symptoms. Stomach churn. Tense muscles. Furrowed brow. You just want to scream sometimes.
Don’t let that emotion control your life. It’s such wasted energy and takes away precious moments of your life. You are in prison to them by letting those reactions overcome you. This is what today’s Love Dare is all about.
Whatever you haven’t forgiven in your mate, forgive it today. Let it go. Just as we ask Jesus to “forgive us our debts” each day, we must ask Him to help us “forgive our debtors” each day as well. Unforgiveness has been keeping you and your spouse in prison too long. Say from your heart, “I choose to forgive.”
KLove Radio Station did The Love Dare and has a daily post (with copyright approval from the publisher). You can find it here (especially if your book has not arrived yet!)
How are you doing? Has it been easy? Struggling?
Big question for the fire wives…..a little off the marriage topic but on forgiveness. Your husbands may have run on some murders in their careers. Have you ever thought of how you would forgive someone if they killed or hurt your loved one? It’s not fun to think about but an exercise that helps check our hearts.
(note: if you have a very private topic to discuss, you can always reach me at contact at firefighterwife dot com)
For Men - Honor Guard
Men, we applaud you for the intentional steps you are taking here to focus on your marriage. Join other men who are devoted to the fire service and their marriage as well in The Honor Guard.
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