Day 31

(You can read more details explaining how we are doing the dare here:

Love and Marriage

 A man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. – Genesis 2:24

Excerpt from The Love Dare Book:

“Unity is a marriage quality to be guarded at a great cost.  The purpose of “leaving,” of course, is not to abandon all contact with the past but rather to preserve the unique oneness that marriage is designed to capture.  Only in oneness can you become all that God means for you to be.


If you’re too tightly drawn to your parents, the singular identity of your marriage will not be able to come to flower.  You will always be held back, and a root of division will continue to send up new shoots into your relationship.  It won’t go away unless you do something about it.  For without “leaving,” you cannot do the “cleaving” you need, the joining of your hearts that’s required to experience oneness.

 You are now free to become everything God meant when He declared you “one flesh.”

  • You are able to achieve oneness in your decision making, even when you begin from differing viewpoints.
  • You are able to achieve oneness in your priorities, even through you’ve come together from backgrounds that could hardly be more different.
  • You are able to achieve oneness in your sexual affections toward each other, even if either of both of you have memories of impurity in your pre-marital past.

God’s decision to make you “one flesh” in marriage can make anything possible.”

If you’re too tightly drawn to your parents, the singular identity of your marriage will not be able to come to flower.  

During yesterday’s discussion in the private group about divisive topics in marriage, it didn’t take long for the topic of in-laws to pop up as a dividing force between some couples.  So today’s dare hits that right on the head.

Note that it can be you or your spouse clinging too tightly to parents or the parents clinging too tightly to you.    If you feel like the situation is out of your control because of over-involved in-laws, remember this….. you may not be able to change others but you can totally change your reaction to others.  It doesn’t mean to roll over and accept it.  By all means, do not.  Stand up for your marriage.  This could be one of the poisons sneaking in and you need to be on guard.   But changing your mental perspective from one of jealously or bitterness to respect for your husband…..maybe that’s a strategy to try here?   Do you agree?

(click thru this pinterest post for another great article on marriage unity!)

From Pinterest

From Pinterest

“The Lord is our God, the Lord is one! (Deuteronomy 6:4)”

Today’s Dare

Is there a “leaving” issue you haven’t been brave enough to conquer yet?  Confess it to your spouse today, and resolve to make it right.  The oneness of your marriage is dependent upon it.  Follow this with a commitment to your spouse and to God to make your marriage the top priority over every other human relationship.

KLove Radio Station did The Love Dare and has a daily post (with copyright approval from the publisher).  You can find it here (especially if your book has not arrived yet!)

How are you doing?  Has it been easy?  Struggling?

Big question for the fire wives…..also being discussed in our private group,   Meddling mother-in-laws?  Enough said.

(note:  if you have a very private topic to discuss, you can always reach me at contact at firefighterwife dot com)


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