Day 33

(You can read more details explaining how we are doing the dare here:  https://firefighterwife.com/fireproof-your-marriage/)

Love Completes Each Other

 If two lie down together they keep warm, but how can one be warm alone?  — Ecclesiastes 4:11

Excerpt from The Love Dare Book:

“Although our difference can frequently be the source of the misunderstanding and conflict, they have been created by God and can be ongoing blessings if we respect them.

 One of you may be better at cooking, for instance, while the other is more thorough in cleaning the dishes.  One may be more gentle and able to keep peace among family members, while the other handles discipline more directly and effectively. One may have a good business head but needs the other to help him remember to be generous.

 When we learn to accept these distinctions in our mate, we can bypass criticism and go straight to helping and appreciating one another.

The effectiveness of your marriage is dependent upon both of you working together.  Do you have big decisions to make about your finances or retirement planning?  Are you having a real problem with a coworker who’s getting harder and harder to deal with, and you are grappling with the appropriate action to take?  Are you absolutely convinced that your educational choices for the children are right, no matter what your spouse thinks?

Don’t try doing all the analysis yourself.  Don’t disqualify his or her right to voice an opinion on matters that affect both of you. Love realizes that God has put you together on purpose.  And though you may wind up disagreeing with your spouse’s perspectives, you should still give their views respect and strong consideration.  This honors God’s design for your relationship and guards the oneness He intends.

Joined together, you are greater than your independent parts. You need each other.  You complete each other.

 When we learn to accept these distinctions in our mate, we can bypass criticism and go straight to helping and appreciating one another.  

If everyone else in the world was like you, the world would be a boring place.   And in marriage, it is so amazing how God matches couples up.   There is definitely a yin and and yang to our relationship and how we balance each other.   As I was reading through this dare, it occurred to me how frustrated I can get doing things that my husband is not good at.   He’ll go grocery shopping but he always leaves half of it out on the counter.  He’s not a good organizer and I have to finish it everytime.  Instead of being frustrated by that, when you think that God made you each different and you are partners to work together, it feels so much more……freeing!

It’s like we see all the missing parts but not the beauty that I am the piece that completes his missing parts.  That’s definitely something only God can ordain.

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Today’s Dare

Recognize that your spouse is integral to your future success. Let them know today that you desire to include them in your upcoming decisions, and that you need their perspective and counsel.  If you have ignored their input in the past, admit your oversight and ask them to forgive you.

KLove Radio Station did The Love Dare and has a daily post (with copyright approval from the publisher).  You can find it here (especially if your book has not arrived yet!)

How are you doing?  Has it been easy?  Struggling?

Big question for the fire wives…..also being discussed in our private group,   Tell us about your “women’s intuition” moments that have helped or hurt your husband in his firefighting profession.

(note:  if you have a very private topic to discuss, you can always reach me at contact at firefighterwife dot com)

 

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