Mind Melding Thought Control

by | Everyday

Tonight there are many, many worried fire wives all over the east coast of the US.  Everyone is bracing as Hurricane Sandy bullies her way over the eastern US states who are not as prepared as our Florida friends.   Firefighters are being called out, held over, packing extra clothes and leaving their wives and babies to fend for themselves while they go off to fight bigger battles.

I don’t need to prolong this drama with more words.  You all know the routine.  This probably isn’t your first rodeo.

The media feeds the monster and we get caught hanging on their every word filling our minds with doom and gloom.

But I have a challenge for you that came to me one nice summer evening when I was on a long run.  I was listening to this podcast from Kris & Kathy Vallotton Ministries called “Managing Your Inner World”.   Kris said something so profound, I had to stop in the middle of my run and make a little note to one day blog about it for my fire wives.

Here’s my best short summary of that long thoughtful (and quite funny!) podcast:

Thoughts, speculation and lofty things that become fortresses inside of us.   There are castles we build in our minds that protect truth and evil fortresses we build that protect lies.

I want to focus on speculations….Kris says….”Have you ever built a case by yourself in your mind and had an argument with somebody who wasn’t present?  What if someone is an hour late coming home and you wonder what happened.  You start thinking about a possible car accident.  You start picturing “what ifs”.   But the what ifs are never positive.  You never think “I bet they got interrupted because someone wanted to give them a large sum of money at the bank and it took time to process the forms.”

Not making the connection?  Let me help you with some of my own irrational fire wife thoughts:

  • He hasn’t called me back yet.  What if he got hurt on that run?
  • He hasn’t called me back yet.  What if something went bad with the GSW they just left for?
  • He hasn’t called me all day.  Maybe something happened to him on his way to work.
  • He hasn’t called me and he said he would.  I bet he’s mad at me for…..

You get the idea.  I’m sure of it because no matter how strong you are, there are moments of exhaustion and irritability and, well, hormones, that push you here.

And on nights like tonight, it’s important to build those castles and not evil fortresses.  Castles of noble thoughts:
  • I’m honored that my husband is able to serve others in needs.  There is no greater calling in life than to serve others.
  • With this storm, I have another opportunity to show my children how we stay positive and focused and enjoy our family time in these moments of trials.
  • If the unspeakable happens, I want the last thoughts I think of him to be thoughts of strength and pride and joy that he is doing what he loves.
Maybe you’ve read this in the bible or maybe you’ve never cracked the cover.   Either way, this verse brings strength to me when my mind meld fails.

We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.  2 Corinthians 10:5


Stay strong in the mind Fire Family.

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  1. Denise

    Thanks Lori! Good things to hear tonight since my FF is on shift…OT at that. 🙂 I need to be better at this.

  2. Christa

    I have another take on this. I actually let my brain go to all the what ifs. My husband not only has this dangerous job, but he rides motorcycle. I do not know how my reaction would truly be, but I like to be as prepared as possible. I think by taking myself through worse case sometimes I might be able to be present instead of collapsing if I ever get the unwanted visit.


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