Introducing Fire Wife Sarah from New Mexico! Big hearted fire sister, mother, scientist, Fire Wife to her Captain. Read on for more about Sarah and her great advice. -Jessie
I’m Sarah Holcomb, married to Seth Holcomb (Captain in the Santa Fe Fire Department), and we’re from Albuquerque, NM. We have a beautiful 5 year old daughter named Sawyer! I work full time for the state as an environmental scientist, doing compliance work under the Clean Water Act. I love my job because I can give back to everyone!
How did you meet?
We were set up on a blind date! A good friend of mine from college, who knew him in high school, set us up. I wasn’t at the best place at the time and he was my knight in shining armor!
What kind of FF and for how long?
He is with a full time paid municipal department, but had quite a bit of wildland experience with his volunteer department in high school. He has specialized with ARFF and he is currently the department’s HazMat team leader.
How do you survive the worry of him being hurt or killed on the job?
What I often tell new wives or girlfriends is that the longer you’re with your FF, you’ll realize that they go through CRAZY amounts of training. It seems like every time I talk to my hubs, he’s just been through some training or another. They have so much training because of the importance, and the danger, of their jobs. You have to be able to rely on the fact that they are amazingly specialized and know how to handle those scary situations. Saying a prayer or two helps, as well. And, as women, we tend to focus on things and over-analyze them, and that’s something we have to consciously opt not to do. Trust and faith are huge in these situations.
What do you do for YOU to keep yourself able to take care of everyone else?
Every once in a while, I make time for a pampering day! I go get a massage or a facial or a manicure, or I just take a few hours and go sit by myself out in a quiet spot in nature, and just use that time to unwind. Running is really good for me time because I can work out all of my stress and get those endorphins going, and I’m in a much better mood once I get home! Also, we’re pretty good about eating well and making sure that we make healthy choices. It’s important for his ability to function on the job, and I’ve got to make sure that I’m healthy enough to be the glue in our family!!!
How do you occupy your time?
Well, I chase after my kiddo a lot, if that counts! I have a few hobbies as well – I’m an amateur photographer (I’ve entered nature photographs into numerous shows in NM over the past few years) and I’m an amateur runner. Not the best runner in the world, but I have a blast doing themed 5k runs! I’m gearing up right now to do the Dirty Dash with my daughter next weekend. I’m pretty crafty, too, so I’ve dabbled in a little bit of everything crafty.
Any advice for mothers or mothers to be about raising children, at least a percentage of the time, alone?
Know your limits. Make sure that you have help. It does a mama a world of good to have 10 minutes to herself here and there.
How do you celebrate holidays/birthdays/events if your FF is working?
We generally try to take the celebration to him at the station if it’s at all possible. If he’s working on his birthday, I’ll embarrass the heck out of him at the station (balloons, cake and everything). We’ve celebrated plenty of Thanksgivings and Christmases at the station with him, and it’s fun because the kids like seeing all of the equipment and the trucks, and the guys really are like a second family.
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