{a series of our favorite Fire Wife Wisdom posts now with the flip side for the Firefighters}

4 ff wisdom mood

So many times we hear from wives saying they are often met with such a bad attitudes from their firefighters.  Our advice isn’t an easy one to accept since it isn’t always popular to be the bigger person.  “Why should I be the one to try to make things better?” is a good question.  Why?

Because you can impact his mood in a positive way.

How?  By ignoring his bad mood, keeping your end of the conversation civil, not reacting to off the handle comments and looking right through his stomping or sulking.  Can you imagine if we took the time to think about our reaction?

Husbands… you’re not this way all the time.  But there is no denying a sleepless night, a bad call, a frustration with something at the firehouse can send you home  in a bad mood.

Do you realize how much your family is impacted by this?  

Don’t stuff it.  Don’t hide from your wife, the one closest to you in your entire life, the feelings you need to get out.  Find a healthy way to get them out.  To share with the family around you what’s put you in a bad mood so they can stop wondering if it’s something they did.

Your spouse and your whole family can be more understanding of why you may feel a little irritable with a simple recognition of the cause and result.

Together….don’t fall into the bickering trap.  Every out of line remark doesn’t have to be met with one as equally out of line.  What sense does it make to wait for someone else to step up and make the right choice?  Greeting him in a positive way can help change his mood.

No, you aren’t responsible for how your husband or wife behaves but you are responsible for how you react to their behavior. We all have bad days.  Learn to greet your spouse in a positive way when you find them in a bad mood.

Be on each other’s team!  We all have bad days.

*Disclaimer:  If you are being physically or verbally abused, we want you to seek help immediately.  TryTheHotline.org for immediate support.


Firefighter + Fire Wife Wisdom has come from many special members of the Fire Wife Sisterhood and their firefighter husbands. We have watched countless marriages transform into strong, reconnected love.  There are some truly wise women in the group, all of us learning together as we grow to be better wives. If you need those kind of women in your life, check out the Fire Wife Sisterhood and the membership options HERE.   (And guys, you have a chance to hang out with the same positive encouraging firefighters at our FireFamily.Life meet ups.)






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Jessie -

A small town girl from Southwest Georgia who happens to value your marriage as much as she does her own. She is married to a firefighter who was a volunteer for several years, then transitioned into a career fireman the same month they married in 2008, and he is now a Captain at his full-time Department. They have two daughters, have been in the FFW family since 2012 and know marriage takes a lot of work, even when it's in the best seasons.