Think Pornography Isn’t Affecting You?

by | Everyday, Firefighter Marriage, Intimacy

Think Pornography isn't affecting you?

Russell Brand.   Way to step up.  Who better to tell us the damage done by pornography than someone who’s been there, done that and shares his open and honest viewpoint.

“Our attitudes towards sex have become warped and perverted,” Brand ranted, “and have deviated from its true function as an expression of love and a means for procreation. Because our acculturation—the way we’ve designed it and expressed it—has become really, really, confused.”

If you are ticked off and don’t want to read further, I understand.  This topic is getting a lot of noise lately (yes 50 Shades of Grey, and yes that should be addressed too.  Anything that is hindering the intimacy between spouses needs to be addressed.)

Is this topic hitting close to home?

We have spent a lot of time in the Fire Wife Sisterhood group healing wounds that were ripped open by pornography.   Wives who’s husbands have no drive for them because it’s been ruined by pornography.   Maybe there’s an interest to be with his wife but an inability to finish because yes, pornography has that effect.  Nice huh?

And don’t forget our youth.  Pornography is so readily available these days.  And those teen and pre-teen minds are incredibly impressionable.   If you have a boy, read these books.


In this book neuroscientist and researcher William Struthers explains how pornography affects the male brain and what we can do about it. Because we are embodied beings, viewing pornography changes how the brain works, how we form memories and make attachments. By better understanding the biological realities of our sexual development, we can cultivate healthier sexual perspectives and interpersonal relationships.


Pornography chemically alters the brain.  There are things that cannot be unseen.

I’m not here to judge nor beat you over the head.  I want to enlighten everyone to these facts and encourage you to really see the effects that pornography is having on your marriage and your personal well being.

So glad to see this important message coming from so many influencers in our world.  We don’t want it to stop there…

More support and resources to help with the hold pornography can have in your relationship

Our COMMITMENT to our marriages does not include pornography. We have rounded up some of the best resources and articles to help you keep your family and your relationship safe from porn, or help you through the journey of recovery. Click the button below to see all the great stuff we have compiled for you!

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On a mission to be and inspire us all to be better humans, to strengthen fire families & marriages, to nurture and encourage fire wives, do "good business" in all areas of my life and of course, love on my 4 kids.

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    why use this piece of human trash to make a point to anyone on your sight?????/you mention Jesus!!!!why not use where he said set no wicked thing before your eyes?????you sould study more before you give adv ice!

  2. Brett

    Great attitude to display Mary, “piece of human trash” eh? You’ll really be able to reach someone with God’s love talking that way. Besides the fact that all of his points against porn are true. I think Lori Mercer is quite brave in showing that ALL people can see the destructiveness of porn not just Christians.

    • Sarah

      Russell Brand, whether you like him or not…..makes a very valid and intelligent argument backed by statistical studies against the use of pornography. I appreciate the fact that a hollywood actor would take such a stance in a culture that perpetuates promiscuity and objectification of women. (and men too) Poor Mary Vess, I pray that God will soften your heart and remove the scales from your eyes to see value in all humans.

    • Aimee

      Thanks for speaking up- sad that some people are so unkind.

  3. Kim

    Do you think the Wired for Intimacy book would be appropriate for my single, rookie son? As a firefighter wife I realize the potential for danger for my new firefighter. Even though he was raised in a Christian home and I spoke frankly with him during growing up, I have been concerned about temptations he will face. Would this be a good preventive?

    • Jessie

      Hi, Kim! If he’ll read it, it’s a great option. Best wishes!


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