(You can read more details explaining how we are doing the dare here: https://firefighterwife.com/fireproof-your-marriage/)
Love Celebrates Godliness
[Love] does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth. – 1 Corinthians 13:6
Excerpt from The Love Dare Book:
“From the moment you close your Bible in the morning nearly everything else you’ll encounter throughout the day will be luring you away from its truths. The opinions of your coworkers, the news coverage on television, your typical Websites, the various temptations of the day – all of these and more will be working overtime to shape your perceptions of what’s true and most desirable in life.
You are one of the most influential people in your spouse’s life. Have you been using your influence to lead them to honor God, or to dishonor Him?
The apostle John, who had walked closely with Jesus and became one of the main leaders in the early church, once wrote to his flock, “I have no greater joy than this, to hear of my children walking in the truth” (3 John 4).
That should be what energizes us when we see it happening in our mate. More than when they save money on the grocery bill. More than when they achieve success at work. Sometimes by accepting modern culture’s take on what to applaud in our spouse, we can even be guilty of encouraging them to sin – perhaps by feeding their vanity, or by letting boys be boys.“
Sometimes by accepting modern culture’s take on what to applaud in our spouse, we can even be guilty of encouraging them to sin – perhaps by feeding their vanity, or by letting boys be boys.
I’ve heard some people who visit this site and our private group say that we are into “hero worship” of our husbands. Now these same people seem to be having not the best marriage themselves based on the way they speak about their husbands so I threw that criticism out of my mind immediately. But it did get me thinking. It can be a fine line between confidence and doing what God made them to do with great joy……and prideful arrogance.
When I say I’m proud of my firefighter, here is what I see and what I’m encouraging:
- patience with small children and the elderly while on a run or while they’re touring the station
- that his heart is still sensitive and easily broken at the things that God wants us to grieve – lives lost, innocence lost
- that he’ll go a whole night with no sleep and come home and stay up the whole next day just to spend time with our kids
Find a specific, recent example when your spouse demonstrated Christian character in a noticeable way. Verbally commend them for this at some point today.
KLove Radio Station did The Love Dare and has a daily post (with copyright approval from the publisher). You can find it here (especially if your book has not arrived yet!)
How are you doing? Has it been easy? Struggling?
Big question for the fire wives…..also being discussed in our private group, do you have a problem with “hero worship”?
(note: if you have a very private topic to discuss, you can always reach me at contact at firefighterwife dot com)
Prioritize Your Marriage
COMMITMENT Weekends are more than a retreat or conference, they are a getaway weekend to reconnect firefighters and their spouse/partner and reignite those marriage sparks. You will leave with your love tank filled up and more in love than you ever imagined possible!
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