My husband has been a firefighter for well over a decade. In the early years, he worked at many stations and shuffled his gear and bedding from one house to the next in the back of his truck. It got a lot of mileage and fire house dirt tracked all over it.
Because of this transient lifestyle, I always sent him with our hand-me-down leftover blankets and sheets. Mismatched. A little hole here or there.
Something we wouldn’t miss at home and wouldn’t mind if it got messed up by the dirty fire gear.
This year I’ve had a big change of heart.
Maybe it’s because he works only at one station now and isn’t dragging his bedding everywhere. Maybe it’s because we’ve both hit our 40’s and our bodies need a little extra attention to feel good. Maybe I should have been caring about this all along and was too caught up in my own selfishness about our home and our family.
I’ve realized my firefighter needs a comfortable, relaxing, even luxurious, set of bedding for his bunk at the firehouse.
For as many times as he has to get in and out of that bed throughout the night, every time he heads back to it I want him to say “Ahhhhhhhh!” and settle into his nest. Not to be annoyed by the pill covered sheets or the comforter that’s all lumpy or his feet sticking out the end or that musty smell that comes with old blankets.
He needs a good set of sheets that you slide right into and a warm heavy blanket that covers from your ears to your toes. And of course a pillow that works for his sleeping style supporting the neck and helping him to breath better while he rests. Maybe even some lavender misting spray for the pillows for an added refreshing calming effect? (Ok, maybe that one’s over the edge for a man but my firefighter has so many low sleep nights at the firehouse he’s game for anything these days!)
To take this idea even further, you can have a quilt made out of special articles of clothing.
Perhaps baby clothes from your children, his favorite old firehouse t-shirts or my favorite, clothing from a loved one who has passed away. One of the best ways I’ve ever heard to keep alive the memory of a loved one was to have quilts made out of their bathrobes, night gowns, favorite t-shirts. Then everyone in the family can literally hold onto a little piece of Grandma, Grandpa, Mom or Dad.
There’s no place like home and the bed you and your husband share together.
But if you can give him that same comfort when he falls asleep at the firehouse, you’ll definitely be his last thought as he drifts off to sleep each night.
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