We don’t walk into the Fire Wife Life equipped with everything we need to effortlessly transition into the fire life. Some of you do manage pretty well, but some of us do not make the transistion so easily. Whether it’s a newlywed who had no idea what the fire life was really going to be like, or the wife married 10 years before her husband decided one day he really wanted to be a fireman. Whew. Some of you have a rough go of it, and that is OK! We’re here to help with our best advice and tips on how to become #firewifestrong. We spend a LOT of time in the Fire Wife Sisterhood talking about our husbands and marriages. But this ain’t no husband bashing session. And the truth bomb is this:
The most important person you can change is yourself.
Fire Wife Strong isn’t about being all gaga over those brave, heroic, sexy hunks of firefighters we are married to. Yes, they do tough jobs and place themselves in harm’s way every shift but being married to a firefighter is so much more than that. And it’s DEFINITELY not about letting them run rough shod over our lives. Fire Strong is for him but it’s also for you, who is touched by the fire.
Fire Wife Strong means…You’ve been tested by fire and are stronger because of it.
Fires in your marriage. With parenting. Health issues. Job loss. Death of a loved one. All the tough stuff. You’ve survived and you’ve done a lot of it on your own while he is off serving the community.
Fire Wife Strong means….you understand the challenges of the fire service but you accept it and embrace it.
Missed holidays. Unexpected overtime. Sleepless nights resulting in irritable firefighters at home. Discussions of scenes no human should ever have to witness.
Fire Wife Strong means…..death is very real to you.
You have frequent discussions about how quickly our lives can be taken away. You’ve imagined life as a widow. So all your piddly first world problems….yeah, you don’t sit around whining and complaining about those.
Fire Wife Strong means……you can bend and not break. With grace.
Unplanned overtime. Dinner time page outs. Weekend trainings. The need to drop everything and discuss a terrible call the moment he walks in the door. Fire Wife Strong means you are flexible and bend but you don’t break. You hug him. You smile. You say you understand. And although it’s frustrating, in your heart you know it’s right.
Fire Wife Strong means……you still have some weak areas but you’re working like mad to make yourself stronger everyday.
Physically strong. Fit and healthy and able to take on life and the house chores as a single mom when he’s gone
Emotionally strong. Girls cry. Sob even. It’s ok! But we know WHY we cry and it only makes us stronger. Don’t cry without hope.
Mentally strong. No weapon formed against you shall stand. Fear. Worry. Guilt. Shame. Take captive every thought. Don’t whirlwind into hopelessness.
Spiritually strong. Anyone who spends this much time in the face of life or death (or discussing it intensely with someone who does, like your firefighter) has thought about life after death and knows their beliefs. When life is crazy all about you, a spiritual foundation is what you cling to for strength.
Fire Wife Strong means…..not everyone can relate to your life.
But it’s ok. Because you are strong and blessed with this special gift. (and you have a community of fire wife strong women to turn to in the Fire Wife Sisterhood)
Fire Wife Strong means…..you.
You are a strong, capable woman who holds down the fort (and likely a career too!) for more than just an 8 hour office day, while your husband runs off to save the world.
Take the Fire Strong Challenge
You are not just a Fire Wife. You are SO much more! You’re a wife, mother, daughter, sister, toddler tamer, teen interpreter, someone’s BFF, career woman, beny yogi, runner, care giving, wonderfully made woman. Being Fire Wife Strong is also knowing that you are more than a Fire Wife. It’s so easy to take this for granted. But all these skills need constant tending to, like a garden. Here at FirefighterWife.com, we encourage you to yes, work on your marriage, but first and foremost, be a better woman. Never stop growing. Never stop caring for yourself. Never stop striving to be your best. When you’re caring for yourself well, you can care for others well.
Challenge yourself to our 10 Days to a Stronger you and become Fire Wife Strong.
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