Community Activities
Find ways to connect with other fire wives, firefighters, and their families. Being across the country from each other diversifies our groups in great ways, but also makes connecting with each other a little more challenging. Near or far, the fire community still connects with each other. Local groups meet up for dinners and small events, many fire wives and firefighters meet up at national events. There are also ways to connect with the fire community if you aren’t close enough for a local or national event.
You Become Like the 5 People You Hang Around the Most
You become like the 5 people you hang around the most. Chances are you’ve heard this statement before in some form. I know I’ve heard it in business, in faith circles, in fitness endeavors, etc. Have you ever taken some time to consider what it might mean for...
Family First, FDIC, or Both?
Here's a long one..... are you ready? Are you going to FDIC? Is your firefighter? Do you even know what it is? At least here in the midwest, the buzz is loud about this event - the largest gathering of firefighters in the country drawing around 30,000...
Create Your Own Commitment Weekend “at home”
Not every one can make it to a Commitment Weekend for one reason or another, but you can still have your very own Virtual Commitment Weekend at home! We're COMMITTED to sharing ways that you can reconnect with your spouse without even having to leave...
Commitment Weekend – From the Mouth of a Firefighter
If you have not experienced Commitment Weekend (formerly known as FlameFest), or you wonder what it is like, read on! A fellow firefighter wrote about his experience and shared it with us to give you an inside look at what can come from making a weekend commitment to...
On September 11 Choose Your Positive Action
As members of the firefighting community, or any community of first responders, a day like September 11 is bound to make us feel a little differently than the general public. We've often heard wives and family members express a feeling of fear; fear...
Firefighter Family Community Blessing
Come as you are! A casual evening of fun and fellowship and music and food. Bring your helmets to be blessed and your family prayer requests and a dessert to share! $5 donations are requested to cover the cost of rental and pizza. Children are welcome! Dress is...
A Flame Fest 2014 Hot Sweaty Mess Makes Our Men Smile
I've been trying to figure out the best way to share about #flamefest14 on the blog. Where to begin. In what order. It's clearly going to take a few posts. And of course, I don't want to just say "Oh my goodness this was such a great event. You HAD to be there."...
Win Free Attendance to “He Zigs, She Zags”
Our friends Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo have a great Online Workshop coming this week and we want to GIVEAWAY A FREE ADMISSION! Click here for all the details of this workshop or to just register right away! All you have to do is enter this RaffleCopter contest...
Our First Virtual Holiday Bazaar
Join us on our LIVE Internet TV Show where we will have crafty Fire Wives sharing, actually demonstrating even, some adorable and easy to make items great for gift giving this holiday season. Gift Ideas Giveaways and kind hearted Fire Wives live and in action...
Another Bad Call
ANOTHER. BAD. CALL. Unfortunately, we don't always know when our firefighters have had a bad call. Sometimes they fly right under the radar, getting hidden in a compartment somewhere they didn’t even know they had. Our husbands are almost constantly exposed to...
Don’t Hoard the Trauma
You don’t have to hoard the trauma - throw it out. Well, maybe it’s not as easy as throwing it out… but we do have the ability to fight trauma head-on as it happens versus storing it away to grow into a bigger problem over time. Listen to this new way to look...
To My Dear Husband, I Am Worried Your Heart Has Hardened
As fire wives we must understand this : Our husbands are exposed to trauma everyday. Sometimes, it isn’t one large traumatic event that can take a mental toll on your spouse, it’s the constant and continual exposure to these so-called ‘minor’ traumas...
Another Bad Call
ANOTHER. BAD. CALL. Unfortunately, we don't always know when our firefighters have had a bad call. Sometimes they fly right under the radar, getting hidden in a compartment somewhere they didn’t even know they had. Our husbands are almost constantly exposed to...
Don’t Hoard the Trauma
You don’t have to hoard the trauma - throw it out. Well, maybe it’s not as easy as throwing it out… but we do have the ability to fight trauma head-on as it happens versus storing it away to grow into a bigger problem over time. Listen to this new way to look...
To My Dear Husband, I Am Worried Your Heart Has Hardened
As fire wives we must understand this : Our husbands are exposed to trauma everyday. Sometimes, it isn’t one large traumatic event that can take a mental toll on your spouse, it’s the constant and continual exposure to these so-called ‘minor’ traumas...
The Fire Department is Destroying Us All
Let’s not pretend this thought to quit the fire service never crosses your mind. (and if you are living some amazing fire life where it never has, can we ask for a moment of your silence here because based on our experiences with this world, you are the...
Have you normalized DefCon5 in your house?
Did you know (or forget?) that when someone is regularly around crazy high levels of crisis (which is every single first responder, and their families secondarily), that high level of crazy can be normalized? You don't even feel the crazy, until the...
Why Your Holiday Feelings are Bigger (and how to guide that sleigh)
You know what feels good when life gets crazy? Validation that you aren't crazy. Yes, Virginia, Your Fire Family Christmas IS Extra crazytown. We validate that as professionals with professional advice. You already know this as a fire family (but let's check...
Fire Wife Wisdom {On Duty Communication Plan}
Do you have a plan about how and when you contact your firefighter? We often get the question, "I have a problem (insert a long list of possible issues from mild to important ), should I call my firefighter, or wait until he gets off duty?" "I have this...
New Traditions in the Face of a Covid Thanksgiving
The Fire Community is no stranger to disappointing holidays. We’ve all had to learn to adapt to scheduling conflicts, unexpected changes and spouses/families being alone on some of the most special days of the year. We have to get creative and create new...
A Cry For Help From The Homefront of the First Responder Mental Health Crisis
This article is a call for accountability to solve a root cause as to why violence happens by first responders. We live in a world where I need to add that disclaimer. Let's get on with the important work. This is a marathon, not a sprint and a healthier humanity...
You Become Like the 5 People You Hang Around the Most
You become like the 5 people you hang around the most. Chances are you’ve heard this statement before in some form. I know I’ve heard it in business, in faith circles, in fitness endeavors, etc. Have you ever taken some time to consider what it might mean for...
Family First, FDIC, or Both?
Here's a long one..... are you ready? Are you going to FDIC? Is your firefighter? Do you even know what it is? At least here in the midwest, the buzz is loud about this event - the largest gathering of firefighters in the country drawing around 30,000...
Create Your Own Commitment Weekend “at home”
Not every one can make it to a Commitment Weekend for one reason or another, but you can still have your very own Virtual Commitment Weekend at home! We're COMMITTED to sharing ways that you can reconnect with your spouse without even having to leave...
Commitment Weekend – From the Mouth of a Firefighter
If you have not experienced Commitment Weekend (formerly known as FlameFest), or you wonder what it is like, read on! A fellow firefighter wrote about his experience and shared it with us to give you an inside look at what can come from making a weekend commitment to...
On September 11 Choose Your Positive Action
As members of the firefighting community, or any community of first responders, a day like September 11 is bound to make us feel a little differently than the general public. We've often heard wives and family members express a feeling of fear; fear...
Firefighter Family Community Blessing
Come as you are! A casual evening of fun and fellowship and music and food. Bring your helmets to be blessed and your family prayer requests and a dessert to share! $5 donations are requested to cover the cost of rental and pizza. Children are welcome! Dress is...
A Flame Fest 2014 Hot Sweaty Mess Makes Our Men Smile
I've been trying to figure out the best way to share about #flamefest14 on the blog. Where to begin. In what order. It's clearly going to take a few posts. And of course, I don't want to just say "Oh my goodness this was such a great event. You HAD to be there."...
Win Free Attendance to “He Zigs, She Zags”
Our friends Tony & Alisa DiLorenzo have a great Online Workshop coming this week and we want to GIVEAWAY A FREE ADMISSION! Click here for all the details of this workshop or to just register right away! All you have to do is enter this RaffleCopter contest...
Our First Virtual Holiday Bazaar
Join us on our LIVE Internet TV Show where we will have crafty Fire Wives sharing, actually demonstrating even, some adorable and easy to make items great for gift giving this holiday season. Gift Ideas Giveaways and kind hearted Fire Wives live and in action...
Another Bad Call
ANOTHER. BAD. CALL. Unfortunately, we don't always know when our firefighters have had a bad call. Sometimes they fly right under the radar, getting hidden in a compartment somewhere they didn’t even know they had. Our husbands are almost constantly exposed to...
Don’t Hoard the Trauma
You don’t have to hoard the trauma - throw it out. Well, maybe it’s not as easy as throwing it out… but we do have the ability to fight trauma head-on as it happens versus storing it away to grow into a bigger problem over time. Listen to this new way to look...
To My Dear Husband, I Am Worried Your Heart Has Hardened
As fire wives we must understand this : Our husbands are exposed to trauma everyday. Sometimes, it isn’t one large traumatic event that can take a mental toll on your spouse, it’s the constant and continual exposure to these so-called ‘minor’ traumas...
The Fire Department is Destroying Us All
Let’s not pretend this thought to quit the fire service never crosses your mind. (and if you are living some amazing fire life where it never has, can we ask for a moment of your silence here because based on our experiences with this world, you are the...
Have you normalized DefCon5 in your house?
Did you know (or forget?) that when someone is regularly around crazy high levels of crisis (which is every single first responder, and their families secondarily), that high level of crazy can be normalized? You don't even feel the crazy, until the...
Why Your Holiday Feelings are Bigger (and how to guide that sleigh)
You know what feels good when life gets crazy? Validation that you aren't crazy. Yes, Virginia, Your Fire Family Christmas IS Extra crazytown. We validate that as professionals with professional advice. You already know this as a fire family (but let's check...
Fire Wife Wisdom {On Duty Communication Plan}
Do you have a plan about how and when you contact your firefighter? We often get the question, "I have a problem (insert a long list of possible issues from mild to important ), should I call my firefighter, or wait until he gets off duty?" "I have this...
New Traditions in the Face of a Covid Thanksgiving
The Fire Community is no stranger to disappointing holidays. We’ve all had to learn to adapt to scheduling conflicts, unexpected changes and spouses/families being alone on some of the most special days of the year. We have to get creative and create new...
A Cry For Help From The Homefront of the First Responder Mental Health Crisis
This article is a call for accountability to solve a root cause as to why violence happens by first responders. We live in a world where I need to add that disclaimer. Let's get on with the important work. This is a marathon, not a sprint and a healthier humanity...
Prayer for Your Firefighter Through the Week
There is no formula for prayer. But my mind gets so busy and cluttered a little road map helps me out. And so does having pretty visual reminders all around me. Print out a couple of copies of this to stick in prominent (or not so prominent) places around your...
He cheated on me. Do I try to make it work?
I hate this question. It's taboo. I don't even want to have to think about it. But it comes to me at least monthly in a private message that someone wants me to anonymously ask. The fire service is a DISASTER when it comes to marriage. An absolute freaking...
The Love Dare – Day 40
(You can read more details explaining how we are doing the dare here: The Love Dare with FirefighterWife) Love Is a Covenant Where you go, I will go, and where you lodge, I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God, my God. Ruth 1:16 Excerpt from...
The Love Dare – Day 39
(You can read more details explaining how we are doing the dare here: The Love Dare with FirefighterWife) Love Endures Love never fails. 1 Corinthians 13:8 Excerpt from The Love Dare Book: "If love is really love, it doesn’t waffle when it’s not received the way you...
The Love Dare – Day 38
(You can read more details explaining how we are doing the dare here: The Love Dare with FirefighterWife) Love Fulfills Dreams Delight yourself in the Lord; and He will give you the desires of your heart. Psalm 37:4 Excerpt from The Love Dare Book: "Not everything...
The Love Dare – Day 37
(You can read more details explaining how we are doing the dare here: The Love Dare with FirefighterWife) Love Agrees in Prayer If two of you agree on earth about anything that they may ask, it shall be done for them by My Father. Matthew 18:19 Excerpt from The Love...
The Love Dare – Day 36
(You can read more details explaining how we are doing the dare here: The Love Dare with FirefighterWife) Love is God’s Word Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path. Psalm 119:105 Excerpt from The Love Dare Book: "God has the right plan for...
The Love Dare – Day 35
(You can read more details explaining how we are doing the dare here: The Love Dare with FirefighterWife) Love is Accountable Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers, they succeed. Proverbs 15:22 Excerpt from The Love Dare Book: "A couple that faces...
The Love Dare – Day 34
(You can read more details explaining how we are doing the dare here: The Love Dare with FirefighterWife) Love Celebrates Godliness [Love] does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth. 1 Corinthians 13:6 Excerpt from The Love Dare Book: "From the...