Department Resources

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Resources for Your Entire Fire Department

Families and marriages are under stress in the fire service.  Many departments are stepping up to offer behavioral services through their Employee Assistance Programs, but many times it is too late.

When surrounded by supportive resources, marriages thrive. Although statistical numbers vary, they all show an increase in the effectiveness of receiving help, especially early on prior to relationship issues becoming insurmountable.

One goal as a department is to develop a strong family support network from the beginning. By doing this, families have access to have the right resources for the small stuff, before it turns into the big stuff.  Sometimes an understanding ear and a different perspective will help a couple through the little things before they pile up into damaging conversations, spilling over into the firefighter’s job.

Personally, our family struggled to make the fire life fit into the Monday through Friday, 9-5 world the kind-hearted friends from church, school, the neighborhood, and even extended family were a part of.  Having another fire family to receive support and have fellowship with fills the void that comes with being a part of the fire life.

Healthy marriages and supportive families also keep your firefighters focused on the job, not on issues at home.   A fire department who supports those families is one who is appreciated, not resented, for all the time away from family and loved ones a firefighter spends while working.

FirefighterWife is on a mission with to honor, strengthen and support marriage and family for first responders and the best way for us to do that is when you share these resources in your department.

A Chief or Officer who understands the stress of the fire life, is a well loved chief by his crew and their families.



Share Our Peer Support Communities With Your Firefighters

If you are starting without any programs in place, there are small steps you can take to build this community for your department.

First, you can introduce them to our online communities.  Here thousands of firefighters and their spouses, who are busy with their own work and (some) juggling families solo through the fire life shift schedule, have connected in friendship and support both across many miles and in local regional groups that have developed from our grass roots social media growth. Spouses have connected in the Fire Wife Sisterhood, and the firefighters have connected in their own community, the Honor Guard for men.

Our online communities are managed by every day life firefighters and fire wives.  They operate within our guidelines to keep everything encouraging and supportive. We challenge each other to be better people in all aspects of our lives, and we are not a place for commercial promotions. We are there to connect as community, and we do so through:

  • daily challenges
  • fun, connecting activities
  • marriage mentors
  • accountability partners
  • resources specific to marriage for fire families – occasional live webinars, articles, discussions

Share the links below to share our communities.  

Honor and Commitment

Standard Life Operating Guidelines for Firefighters & Their Families

This book goes beyond general self-help, relationship, or household tips and goes straight to the heart of the firefighter family.  This book is great for both Firefighters, and their spouses. 

In this book, you’ll find:

  • Real-life stories from firefighter families, that only someone like you can relate to.
  • Time-tested, realistic advice on everything from managing family schedules to what to do at home after a difficult call.
  • Discussion questions to open up communication with your first family or your firefighter family.
  • Support during the times when your marriage feels challenged by the fire life, and the encouragement and straightforward guidance you need to keep your connection strong.
  • Carefully-chosen resources to help your whole family thrive.

Available in eBook, paperback and for bulk orders… we have 10 Pack Packback Bundles at 40% off.