Firefighter Marriage
Fast-paced, unpredictable, passionate, one-of-a-kind, committed, engaging, challenging, priceless…These are a just a few of the words that describe Firefighter Marriages. A couple can be on fire one minute, and cold as ice the next. How do you keep the flame burning hot? Communication, missed holidays, schedules, and balance can be hard…But your love can be stronger. Find support, connections, resources, and laughter here to help your marriage be Fire Strong!
Family First, FDIC, or Both?
Here's a long one..... are you ready? Are you going to FDIC? Is your firefighter? Do you even know what it is? At least here in the midwest, the buzz is loud about this event - the largest gathering of firefighters in the country drawing around 30,000 firefighters...
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Step Away From Your Devices: Your Summer Unplugged
Often we struggle as fire families to make time to do things together. For some of you, the fire service gets nearly every free moment - life shouldn't be that way. (*ahem* I will not call you out so harshly, but if you're not giving your spouse and family time they...
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When Fire Life Meets Fire Wife Entrepreneurship: how to stay married
Since the beginning of Firefighter Wife, we’ve spent a lot of time helping wives understand what it’s like to be married to a firefighter and how to make the most of the fire life. But we’ve also been clear, you are WAY more than a fire wife. You’ve got a life too...
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New Year’s Eve – Date Night Delight or Dud?
Jackpot. A night off on a holiday. It feels like it never happens, right? All the good ones always fall on shift. He gets transferred from station to station and is always back in the rotation where BAM - holidays are workdays. This is the life we signed up....
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Need a Date this Holiday Season? Grab your Firefighter and Let’s Go!
Okay fire wives... Things are about to get serious. There are only (XX) days until Christmas! Christmas for us? That means another holiday where one person will be missing from Christmas morning. The schedule is not on our side this year but we have figured a way to...
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Holiday Exhaustion – How Will It Impact Your Marriage?
Can you feel it? The bloat of stuffing and the turkey just fading away. The jingling bells of Christmas and the holiday season coming right for you? The holidays are officially here and hollering merrily that it is time to decide what WILL be the perfect gift for...
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Marriage Fire Safety Month Wrap Up
So much effort goes into Fire Safety and Fire Prevention in the months of September and October. We agree it's highly important, but we added another area to apply those same basic rules to. Firefighters spend countless hours training and preparing for those bad...
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Join Us For The Power of a Praying Fire Wife
Join us in the Christian Fire Wife Sisterhood as we pray through the Power of Praying Wife together. Marriages are so under attack. Evil forces are constantly trying to pull us apart, distort our words, plant seeds of doubt and destroy us with addictions. But we have...
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Keep the Love Fires Burning Over the Distance
"Absence makes the heart grow fonder, but it sure makes the rest of you lonely." Charles M. Schultz I am going to be honest, there were times I wasn't sure we would make it through and still be together in the end. But there were also times when I was flying high on...
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Family First, FDIC, or Both?
Here's a long one..... are you ready? Are you going to FDIC? Is your firefighter? Do you even know what it is? At least here in the midwest, the buzz is loud about this event - the largest gathering of firefighters in the country drawing around 30,000 firefighters...
Keep the Love Fires Burning Over the Distance
"Absence makes the heart grow fonder, but it sure makes the rest of you lonely." Charles M. Schultz I am going to be honest, there were times I wasn't sure we would make it through and still be together in the end. But there were also times when I was flying high on...
What to Say to Your Firefighter When He’s Had a Bad Call
You can feel the air turn tense before a word is even said. You know it was a bad shift. Something must have happened to make such a drastic change in your firefighter. Maybe he is angry, or silent, or sad....you just know something isn't right. Do you ask about it?...
Need a Date this Holiday Season? Grab your Firefighter and Let’s Go!
Okay fire wives... Things are about to get serious. There are only (XX) days until Christmas! Christmas for us? That means another holiday where one person will be missing from Christmas morning. The schedule is not on our side this year but we have figured a way to...
read more
Holiday Exhaustion – How Will It Impact Your Marriage?
Can you feel it? The bloat of stuffing and the turkey just fading away. The jingling bells of Christmas and the holiday season coming right for you? The holidays are officially here and hollering merrily that it is time to decide what WILL be the perfect gift for...
read more
Keep the Love Fires Burning Over the Distance
"Absence makes the heart grow fonder, but it sure makes the rest of you lonely." Charles M. Schultz I am going to be honest, there were times I wasn't sure we would make it through and still be together in the end. But there were also times when I was flying high on...
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How To Watch a Fire Movie With Your Firefighter
Firefighter movies. You cannot escape them as a fire wife, nor should you in my opinion. Whether it's watching live burns on Youtube videos or the ritualistic watching of Ladder 49 or Backdraft (with all the commentary as to what's real and accurate and what's...
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The “I LOVE US” Book
If you are looking for an amazing way to document your love story, look no further! I've been looking around for a love journal and I have finally found the PERFECT printable love journal by The Dating Divas! It's the perfect DIY anniversary or birthday gift for your...
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12 Years and He Finally Asked Me To Dance
A slow song came on and I thought to myself, good time to refill my drink. I didn't even waste a brain cell or heart pang on how he never wants to dance because after 12 years I've pretty much accepted him for who he is. Then, shockingly, before I could even begin to...
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Married…but dating.
There are three things that sometimes prevent us all from having a “date night” with our firefighters weather we are married or in a long term relationship. We recently had this come up in the SISTERHOOD . Time, money and for those of us with children, babysitters!...
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Strengthen Your Marriage With Your Phone
We all know how easily we can get distracted by our electronic devices! With nearly constant emails, Facebook updates, News Story Alerts, Instagram pics...the flow of information is never ending. It can be a real addiction if you let it become one! Not to mention,...
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30 Day Love Challenge
Everyone is doing some sort of 30-day physical challenge these days. Sit up challenges, plank challenges, clean eating challenges, water drinking challenges, walking miles challenges...all to take care of the body. Sometimes it seems we care more about our physical...
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Take the 7 Days of Sex Challenge
Want to get your husband's attention? Let's talk about sex. You, however, may be feeling like two ships passing in the night wondering where the physical intimacy has gone or if it will ever come back again. Maybe it is firefighter academy, starting a new business,...
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Fire Up Your Love Life
I am so excited to announce a new feature on FirefighterWife.com entitled "Fire Up Your Love Life" as we welcome a new partner, Heather Isaacs. Heather is one of our administrators in the Private Wives Group and one of my biggest personal cheerleaders when life gets...
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Husband’s Guide to Getting Lucky
There may still be time to order one of these great Amazon deals for Firefighters. Amazon can be super speedy with shipping. But if you're still looking for that perfect Father's Day gift. One that will really wow him. One you will save for him to open until...
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My Husband Facebook Messages Girls All the Time
We have heard this comment so often in fire wife discussions and no doubt does it bring an undercurrent of distrust and lack of transparency in a marriage. Scenarios range from husbands picking random girls on Facebook and starting a "get to know you chat" to old...
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A Firefighter Marriage Story – Surviving Infidelity
Meet Christy and Chad. Married 19 years. Known each other most of their lives and dated 5 years before getting married. Here is their inspiring story of making marriage amazing. How did you meet? We met when we were 13 or 14 at our local skating rink, I actually...
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Marriage Story – A Sea Apart
Brenda and Cory Bouldin have been married for two years. Cory is currently a contract firefighter, overseas. How did you meet? We were an eHarmony success story. As we were talking on eHarmony, I was put on an ambulance for ride time in the same county he was a...
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A Firefighter Marriage Story – Secrets to 36 Years
Meet LeAnne and Sam Cary. They've been married for 36 years! And I had the pleasure of meeting them in person this past summer when I visited Texas. One of the best parts of this job as Chief Fire Wife is all the amazing people we get to interact with. This is one...
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A Firefighter Marriage Story – Surviving Infidelity
Meet Christy and Chad. Married 19 years. Known each other most of their lives and dated 5 years before getting married. Here is their inspiring story of making marriage amazing. How did you meet? We met when we were 13 or 14 at our local skating rink, I actually...
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24 / 48 / 72 – What shift is it today? {from FireWifey}
As I write this, we are one full month into a regular fire schedule. I use the term “regular” rather loosely. As many veteran fire wives can attest, there really is no such thing as regular. Things come up, shifts get traded, overtime gets mandatoried, and so on....
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I Never Even Thought About Dating a Firefighter: The Story of How I Met My Husband
I met my husband at the fire station near my house. It's one of those random chance meeting, star crossed lovers, fate filled, God breathed, kind of stories. And the anniversary of our first date is today (Feb. 15) so it seemed like a good day to finally share this...
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Trial By Fire
Marriage is hard enough, the fire service makes it that much more difficult. A while ago, I read a post from a fire wife that was lost and looking for direction. Her marriage was crumbling down around her and apparently her husband had no interest in helping pick up...
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Think Your Marriage is Over? This Testimony Brings Hope
This fire couple's marriage was totally transformed. If you can relate to some of these pains they went though, you may want to try The Love Dare. We have added the special fire related issues. Click here to sign up. Thank you Allison and Calvin for sharing!!! ~...
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Do You Have a Marriage Mission Statement?
Please welcome guest blogger and fellow Fire Wife, Wren Baumgartel who blogs at Her Hero, His Lady. Today she's sharing about strengthening marriage, a topic that is a main focus for us here at Firefighter Wife. Thanks Wren! ~ Lori AKA WifeOnFire Hey Yall! I'm...
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A True Love Story: Happily Ever After
In case you missed the beginning of this series, "A True Love Story", here are the first two posts Part 1: A True Love Story Part 2: It's Not Pretty (A True Love Story continued) But there are no words to describe the awesomeness of the love between husband and...
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Fire Up Your Love Life Gift Guide
***DISCLAIMER: The following content may not safe for work, public places or children. It contains our Fire Up Your Love Life Gift Guide. This gift guide is meant to Fire Up Your Love Life and bring a closer connection with your spouse. Proceed at your own risk ;)...
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Filling Up the Love Tank Before Shift
Do you ever wish your firefighter could read your mind about what you want the day or night before he goes back on shift? Well, wish granted! The Honor Guard is our free community for men who are devoted to firefighting and their marriage. The Fire Wife Sisterhood is...
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Think Pornography Isn’t Affecting You?
Russell Brand. Way to step up. Who better to tell us the damage done by pornography than a sexy actor who's been there, done that and shares his open and honest viewpoint. “Our attitudes towards sex have become warped and perverted,” Brand ranted, “and have...
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Our Marriage Is Sexless
We are here to honor, strengthen, support and encourage fire service marriages. Even if that means getting uncomfortable a bit and speaking into your bedrooms. No need to raise your hands, but I hope that you can read this and find comfort knowing that it isn't just...
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A Firefighter Marriage Story – Surviving Infidelity
Meet Christy and Chad. Married 19 years. Known each other most of their lives and dated 5 years before getting married. Here is their inspiring story of making marriage amazing. How did you meet? We met when we were 13 or 14 at our local skating rink, I actually...
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Take the 7 Days of Sex Challenge
Want to get your husband's attention? Let's talk about sex. You, however, may be feeling like two ships passing in the night wondering where the physical intimacy has gone or if it will ever come back again. Maybe it is firefighter academy, starting a new business,...
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12 Steamy Days of Christmas with Your Fireman
It's that time of year again, and the hustle and bustle of Christmas shopping piled on top of shift work and overtime and holiday parades and awards banquets...is enough to turn anyone into the Grinch. With all of the holiday insanity, it can be so easy to slip into...
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7 Sexy Reasons Your Marriage Needs Exercise
This post comes to you from Tony DiLorenzo of ONE Extraordinary Marriage. He co-hosts the #1 Marriage Podcast on iTunes, ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show, with his wife, Alisa. Tony has co-authored three books: Happy, Healthy & Hot!, Stripped Down: 13 Keys to...
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Sleep Well My Love
My husband has been a firefighter for well over a decade. In the early years, he worked at many stations and shuffled his gear and bedding from one house to the next in the back of his truck. It got a lot of mileage and fire house dirt tracked all over it. Because...
read moreScreamFree Marriage – Chapter 9
You made it!!! It's the last chapter of a book that seemed like a pretty quick read thanks to some of the humorous writing. So we dive out of the bedroom and into the deep love stuff for the last chapter. Page 222 (in the hardcover) or the very beginning of Chapter...
read moreScreamFree Marriage – Chapter 8
I have to confess I have fallen short on the ScreamFree reading this week and so has Michele. I think back-to-school season is taking us hostage. But not for long! If you all are still trying to catch up, we can extend one more week if needed 🙂 We are on...
read moreScream Free Marriage – Chapter 7 – Scream – Filled Sex
So we have said all along "Jump in! Join us! Catch Up!" anywhere in this study. Now that I've read this chapter, I'd have to say this would not be the one to start with. While still good and informative, I think you need the background of at least the intros to put...
read moreScreamFree Marriage – Chapter 5 – The Fire of Extended Family
This week I am so excitedly busy preparing for Flame Fest so the blog post is coming from Michele Yarbrough who is our ScreamFree facilitator. But let me tell you, when I finally catch up on this chapter, I have so much to say about it. We have had to learn tight...
read moreScreamFree Marriage – Chapter 4
Now we enter Part 2 of the book and get into the meat of some specific issues Hal calls "The Fires of Marital Commitment". This chapter focuses on time.....I loved the "ball and chain" t-shirt. So crazy that he saw 2 guys wearing it in the same airport! To be...
read moreScreamFree Marriage – Chapter 3
(This week's blog post from our ScreamFree facilitator Michele Yarbrough!) My husband Dave and I have been married almost 22 years. We have three children. Jacob; 18, Jared;15, and Jenna; 10. I can honestly say that emotional reactivity has always been a big issue for...
read moreScreamFree Marriage – Chapter 2 – You Don’t Complete Me
If you're still reading, you might be a bit confused. This is definitely taking some tried and true marriage principles and completely turning them around. No more unity candles? What?!!? Now I am totally a believer in needing to be good and steady as an...
read moreScream Free Marriage: Chapter 1
Let me start by saying that my husband and I do NOT have this all figured out. Are we waaaaaaaaaay better than we used to be? Absolutely. But we still have some pretty crappy moments in our marriage. So I'm super excited to dive into this book which is new and...
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Things You Wish You Knew When You Were a New Fire Wife
Shift Night Chatter: Things You Wish You Knew As A New Fire wife There are so many things I can think back on and wish I knew when I was a brand new fire wife. This was the inspiration for this week's Shift Night Chatter and it struck a chord as we had nearly 500...
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Fire Safety For Your Marriage
The months of September and October exude the presence of the fire service. From the 9/11 recognition of their heroic efforts to the MDA Fill the Boot Campaigns to the National Fallen Firefighters Foundation Memorial Weekend and of course, the annual Fire Prevention...
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Everyone Goes Home – Will Our Family Be There?
We are so grateful to welcome Andrew Starnes as a guest blogger to the 24-7 COMMITMENT team. There are few other bloggers in the fire service that have shown his commitment to the cause of marriage, family and community - bringing back the brotherhood as everyone...
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Stand By Your Man – A Word from a Firefighter Husband
{One of our favorite things EVER is when our husbands, the firefighters, write in to share words. Their words are so powerful to the men around them everyday on the job. And we are so grateful for their courage to speak them out loud. Thank you Dave! And for...
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My Husband Facebook Messages Girls All the Time
We have heard this comment so often in fire wife discussions and no doubt does it bring an undercurrent of distrust and lack of transparency in a marriage. Scenarios range from husbands picking random girls on Facebook and starting a "get to know you chat" to old...
read more
A Firefighter Marriage Story – Surviving Infidelity
Meet Christy and Chad. Married 19 years. Known each other most of their lives and dated 5 years before getting married. Here is their inspiring story of making marriage amazing. How did you meet? We met when we were 13 or 14 at our local skating rink, I actually...
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Top Things to Do When Your Firefighter is on Shift
Our Time Together is Kind of a Big Deal... How do you prioritize your schedules when your firefighter is on shift? Do you have certain things that only happen on a shift day/night so you can make the most of every moment when they get home? On last week's Shift Night...
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Commitment is Courageous
Even more courageous than being a firefighter, is being a spouse who is committed to their marriage. The courage to stay true and honor your marriage in a society where relationships are sometimes disposable. The courage to do the hard work to stay close and connected...
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12 Years and He Finally Asked Me To Dance
A slow song came on and I thought to myself, good time to refill my drink. I didn't even waste a brain cell or heart pang on how he never wants to dance because after 12 years I've pretty much accepted him for who he is. Then, shockingly, before I could even begin to...
read more
Married…but dating.
There are three things that sometimes prevent us all from having a “date night” with our firefighters weather we are married or in a long term relationship. We recently had this come up in the SISTERHOOD . Time, money and for those of us with children, babysitters!...
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Back Off! That’s Our Time – Protecting Your Fire Family Schedule
Have you ever been at a family event or a neighborhood gathering or church and someone says "That was fun. We should all get together for again." and your insides start to squirm and your brain starts thinking of polite excuses? So these are super nice people and it...
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A Firefighter Marriage Story – Surviving Infidelity
Meet Christy and Chad. Married 19 years. Known each other most of their lives and dated 5 years before getting married. Here is their inspiring story of making marriage amazing. How did you meet? We met when we were 13 or 14 at our local skating rink, I actually...
read more
Financial Peace for Firefighter Families – Fall 2014 Program
Is money a fighting word in your marriage? Since we all know that sometimes finances can be a huge issue, we are so excited to announce we are offering a fire family Financial Peace group led by certified instructors and available to our members at a discounted price!...
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Financial Peace Program Offered Exclusively for Fire Couples
Is money a fighting word in your marriage? Since we all know that sometimes finances can be a huge issue, we are so excited to announce we are offering a fire family Financial Peace group led by certified instructors and available to our members at a discounted price!...
read moreScreamFree Marriage – Chapter 9
You made it!!! It's the last chapter of a book that seemed like a pretty quick read thanks to some of the humorous writing. So we dive out of the bedroom and into the deep love stuff for the last chapter. Page 222 (in the hardcover) or the very beginning of Chapter...
read moreScreamFree Marriage – Chapter 8
I have to confess I have fallen short on the ScreamFree reading this week and so has Michele. I think back-to-school season is taking us hostage. But not for long! If you all are still trying to catch up, we can extend one more week if needed 🙂 We are on...
read moreScream Free Marriage – Chapter 7 – Scream – Filled Sex
So we have said all along "Jump in! Join us! Catch Up!" anywhere in this study. Now that I've read this chapter, I'd have to say this would not be the one to start with. While still good and informative, I think you need the background of at least the intros to put...
read moreScreamFree Marriage – Chapter 5 – The Fire of Extended Family
This week I am so excitedly busy preparing for Flame Fest so the blog post is coming from Michele Yarbrough who is our ScreamFree facilitator. But let me tell you, when I finally catch up on this chapter, I have so much to say about it. We have had to learn tight...
read moreScreamFree Marriage – Chapter 4
Now we enter Part 2 of the book and get into the meat of some specific issues Hal calls "The Fires of Marital Commitment". This chapter focuses on time.....I loved the "ball and chain" t-shirt. So crazy that he saw 2 guys wearing it in the same airport! To be...
read moreScreamFree Marriage – Chapter 3
(This week's blog post from our ScreamFree facilitator Michele Yarbrough!) My husband Dave and I have been married almost 22 years. We have three children. Jacob; 18, Jared;15, and Jenna; 10. I can honestly say that emotional reactivity has always been a big issue for...
read more
Prayer for Your Firefighter Through the Week
There is no formula for prayer. But my mind gets so busy and cluttered a little road map helps me out. And so does having pretty visual reminders all around me. Print out a couple of copies of this to stick in prominent (or not so prominent) places around your...
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He cheated on me. Do I try to make it work?
I hate this question. It's taboo. I don't even want to have to think about it. But it comes to me at least monthly in a private message that someone wants me to anonymously ask. The fire service is a DISASTER when it comes to marriage. An absolute freaking...
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The Love Dare – Day #40
Day 40 (You can read more details explaining how we are doing the dare here: https://firefighterwife.com/fireproof-your-marriage/) Love Is a Covenant Where you go, I will go, and where you lodge, I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God, my...
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The Love Dare – Day #39
Day 39 (You can read more details explaining how we are doing the dare here: https://firefighterwife.com/fireproof-your-marriage/) Love Endures Love never fails. – 1 Corinthians 13:8 Excerpt from The Love Dare Book: "If love is really love, it doesn’t waffle when...
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The Love Dare – Day #38
Day 38 (You can read more details explaining how we are doing the dare here: https://firefighterwife.com/fireproof-your-marriage/) Love Fulfills Dreams Delight yourself in the Lord; and He will give you the desires of your heart. – Psalm 37:4 Excerpt from The Love...
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The Love Dare – Day #37
Day 37 (You can read more details explaining how we are doing the dare here: https://firefighterwife.com/fireproof-your-marriage/) Love Agrees in Prayer If two of you agree on earth about anything that they may ask, it shall be done for them by My Father. – Matthew...
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The Love Dare – Day #36
Day 36 (You can read more details explaining how we are doing the dare here: https://firefighterwife.com/fireproof-your-marriage/) Love is God’s Word Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path. – Psalm 119:105 Excerpt from The Love Dare Book: "God has...
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The Love Dare – Day #35
Day 35 (You can read more details explaining how we are doing the dare here: https://firefighterwife.com/fireproof-your-marriage/) Love is Accountable Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed. – Proverbs 15:22 Excerpt from The Love Dare...
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The Love Dare – Day #34
Day 34 (You can read more details explaining how we are doing the dare here: https://firefighterwife.com/fireproof-your-marriage/) Love Celebrates Godliness [Love] does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth. – 1 Corinthians 13:6 Excerpt from...
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