Firefighter Marriage
Fast-paced, unpredictable, passionate, one-of-a-kind, committed, engaging, challenging, priceless…These are a just a few of the words that describe Firefighter Marriages. A couple can be on fire one minute, and cold as ice the next. How do you keep the flame burning hot? Communication, missed holidays, schedules, and balance can be hard…But your love can be stronger. Find support, connections, resources, and laughter here to help your marriage be Fire Strong!
Fire Wife Wisdom {On Duty Communication Plan}
Do you have a plan about how and when you contact your firefighter? We often get the question, "I have a problem (insert a long list of possible issues from mild to important ), should I call my firefighter, or wait until he gets off duty?" "I have this...
Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff (But When is it Small Stuff?!)
This Guest Post is from Courtney Murrell of fromtheashesiamreal.com. This post hit home with me, and maybe you'll relate some too. It's great to be able to see others in the Fire Life experiencing the same things, even when it isn't technically fire...
How Marriage Comparison is Stealing Your Joy
This Guest Post is brought to you by Rachel Mellencamp. (Twitter: @rachelmcamp and IG: @rachelmellencamp) She been married for 3 years to her Firefighter. She says she is still figuring it out. (Aren't we all 😉 ) She also has a passion for firefighters and their...
You Become Like the 5 People You Hang Around the Most
Welcome long time fire wife advisor, volunteer, friend, sister... everything lover and supporter of 24/7 Commitment... Cori Fuller. Devoted mother of three and wife to a fire Chief, we know you'll love her heart and message. Thank you, Cori! <3 ...
Family First, FDIC, or Both?
Here's a long one..... are you ready? Are you going to FDIC? Is your firefighter? Do you even know what it is? At least here in the midwest, the buzz is loud about this event - the largest gathering of firefighters in the country drawing around 30,000...
Step Away From Your Devices: Your Summer Unplugged
Often we struggle as fire families to make time to do things together. For some of you, the fire service gets nearly every free moment - life shouldn't be that way. (*ahem* I will not call you out so harshly, but if you're not giving your spouse and family...
New Year’s Eve – Date Night Delight or Dud?
Jackpot. A night off on a holiday. It feels like it never happens, right? All the good ones always fall on shift. He gets transferred from station to station and is always back in the rotation where BAM - holidays are workdays. This is the life we signed up....
Holiday Exhaustion – How Will It Impact Your Marriage?
Can you feel it? The bloat of stuffing and the turkey just fading away. The jingling bells of Christmas and the holiday season coming right for you? The holidays are officially here and hollering merrily that it is time to decide what WILL be the perfect gift for...
Marriage Fire Safety Month Wrap Up
So much effort goes into Fire Safety and Fire Prevention in the months of September and October. We agree it's highly important, but we added another area to apply those same basic rules to. Firefighters spend countless hours training and preparing for...
Fire Wife Wisdom {On Duty Communication Plan}
Do you have a plan about how and when you contact your firefighter? We often get the question, "I have a problem (insert a long list of possible issues from mild to important ), should I call my firefighter, or wait until he gets off duty?" "I have this...
Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff (But When is it Small Stuff?!)
This Guest Post is from Courtney Murrell of fromtheashesiamreal.com. This post hit home with me, and maybe you'll relate some too. It's great to be able to see others in the Fire Life experiencing the same things, even when it isn't technically fire...
You Become Like the 5 People You Hang Around the Most
Welcome long time fire wife advisor, volunteer, friend, sister... everything lover and supporter of 24/7 Commitment... Cori Fuller. Devoted mother of three and wife to a fire Chief, we know you'll love her heart and message. Thank you, Cori! <3 ...
Holiday Exhaustion – How Will It Impact Your Marriage?
Can you feel it? The bloat of stuffing and the turkey just fading away. The jingling bells of Christmas and the holiday season coming right for you? The holidays are officially here and hollering merrily that it is time to decide what WILL be the perfect gift for...
Keep the Love Fires Burning Over the Distance
"Absence makes the heart grow fonder, but it sure makes the rest of you lonely." Charles M. Schultz I am going to be honest, there were times I wasn't sure we would make it through and still be together in the end. But there were also times when I was flying high on...
How To Watch a Fire Movie With Your Firefighter
Firefighter movies. You cannot escape them as a fire wife, nor should you in my opinion. Whether it's watching live burns on Youtube videos or the ritualistic watching of Ladder 49 or Backdraft (with all the commentary as to what's real and accurate and...
Married…but dating.
There are three things that sometimes prevent us all from having a “date night” with our firefighters weather we are married or in a long term relationship. We recently had this come up in the SISTERHOOD . Time, money and for those of us with children, babysitters!...
Take the 7 Days of Sex Challenge
Want to get your husband's attention? Let's talk about sex. You, however, may be feeling like two ships passing in the night wondering where the physical intimacy has gone or if it will ever come back again. Maybe it is firefighter academy, starting a new...
Fire Up Your Love Life
I am so excited to announce a new feature on FirefighterWife.com entitled "Fire Up Your Love Life" as we welcome a new partner, Heather Isaacs. Heather is one of our administrators in the Private Wives Group and one of my biggest personal cheerleaders when life gets...
My Husband Facebook Messages Girls All the Time
We have heard this comment so often in fire wife discussions and no doubt does it bring an undercurrent of distrust and lack of transparency in marriage. Scenarios range from husbands picking random girls on Facebook and starting a "get to know you chat" to old...
A Firefighter Marriage Story – Surviving Infidelity
Meet Christy and Chad. Married 19 years. Known each other most of their lives and dated 5 years before getting married. Here is their inspiring story of making marriage amazing. How did you meet? We met when we were 13 or 14 at our local skating rink, I actually...
Marriage Story – A Sea Apart
Brenda and Cory Bouldin have been married for two years. Cory is currently a contract firefighter, overseas. How did you meet? We were an eHarmony success story. As we were talking on eHarmony, I was put on an ambulance for ride time in the same county he was a...
A Firefighter Marriage Story – Secrets to 36 Years
Meet LeAnne and Sam Cary. They've been married for 36 years! And I had the pleasure of meeting them in person this past summer when I visited Texas. One of the best parts of this job as Chief Fire Wife is all the amazing people we get to interact with. This is one...
A Firefighter Marriage Story – Surviving Infidelity
Meet Christy and Chad. Married 19 years. Known each other most of their lives and dated 5 years before getting married. Here is their inspiring story of making marriage amazing. How did you meet? We met when we were 13 or 14 at our local skating rink, I actually...
24 / 48 / 72 – What shift is it today? {from FireWifey}
As I write this, we are one full month into a regular fire schedule. I use the term “regular” rather loosely. As many veteran fire wives can attest, there really is no such thing as regular. Things come up, shifts get traded, overtime gets mandatoried, and so on....
Do You Have a Marriage Mission Statement?
Please welcome guest blogger and fellow Fire Wife, Wren Baumgartel who blogs at Her Hero, His Lady. Today she's sharing about strengthening marriage, a topic that is a main focus for us here at Firefighter Wife. Thanks Wren! ~ Lori AKA WifeOnFire Hey Yall! I'm...
Fire Up Your Love Life Gift Guide
***DISCLAIMER: The following content may not safe for work, public places or children. It contains our Fire Up Your Love Life Gift Guide. This gift guide is meant to Fire Up Your Love Life and bring a closer connection with your spouse. Proceed at your own risk 😉 ...
Filling Up the Love Tank Before Shift
Do you ever wish your firefighter could read your mind about what you want the day or night before he goes back on shift? Well, wish granted!The Honor Guard is our free community for men who are devoted to firefighting and their marriage. The Fire Wife...
Think Pornography Isn’t Affecting You?
Russell Brand. Way to step up. Who better to tell us the damage done by pornography than someone who's been there, done that and shares his open and honest viewpoint. “Our attitudes towards sex have become warped and perverted,” Brand ranted, “and have deviated...
A Firefighter Marriage Story – Surviving Infidelity
Meet Christy and Chad. Married 19 years. Known each other most of their lives and dated 5 years before getting married. Here is their inspiring story of making marriage amazing. How did you meet? We met when we were 13 or 14 at our local skating rink, I actually...
Take the 7 Days of Sex Challenge
Want to get your husband's attention? Let's talk about sex. You, however, may be feeling like two ships passing in the night wondering where the physical intimacy has gone or if it will ever come back again. Maybe it is firefighter academy, starting a new...
12 Steamy Days of Christmas with Your Fireman
It's that time of year again, and the hustle and bustle of Christmas shopping piled on top of shift work and overtime and holiday parades and awards banquets...is enough to turn anyone into the Grinch. With all of the holiday insanity, it can be so easy to slip...
7 Sexy Reasons Your Marriage Needs Exercise
This post comes to you from Tony DiLorenzo of ONE Extraordinary Marriage. He co-hosts the #1 Marriage Podcast on iTunes, ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show, with his wife, Alisa. Tony has co-authored three books: Happy, Healthy & Hot!, Stripped Down: 13 Keys to...
Sleep Well My Love
My husband has been a firefighter for well over a decade. In the early years, he worked at many stations and shuffled his gear and bedding from one house to the next in the back of his truck. It got a lot of mileage and firehouse dirt tracked all over it....
How Marriage Comparison is Stealing Your Joy
This Guest Post is brought to you by Rachel Mellencamp. (Twitter: @rachelmcamp and IG: @rachelmellencamp) She been married for 3 years to her Firefighter. She says she is still figuring it out. (Aren't we all 😉 ) She also has a passion for firefighters and their...
Things You Wish You Knew When You Were a New Fire Wife
Shift Night Chatter: Things You Wish You Knew As A New Fire wife There are so many things I can think back on and wish I knew when I was a brand new fire wife. This was the inspiration for this week's Shift Night Chatter and it struck a chord as we had nearly 500...
Fire Safety For Your Marriage
The months of September and October exude the presence of the fire service. From the 9/11 recognition of their heroic efforts to the MDA Fill the Boot Campaigns to the National Fallen Firefighters Foundation Memorial Weekend and of course, the annual Fire...
Everyone Goes Home – Will Our Family Be There?
We are so grateful to welcome Andrew Starnes as a guest blogger to the 24-7 COMMITMENT team. There are few other bloggers in the fire service that have shown his commitment to the cause of marriage, family and community - bringing back the brotherhood as everyone...
Stand By Your Man – A Word from a Firefighter Husband
{One of our favorite things EVER is when our husbands, the firefighters, write in to share words. Their words are so powerful to the men around them everyday on the job. And we are so grateful for their courage to speak them out loud. Thank you Dave! And for...
My Husband Facebook Messages Girls All the Time
We have heard this comment so often in fire wife discussions and no doubt does it bring an undercurrent of distrust and lack of transparency in marriage. Scenarios range from husbands picking random girls on Facebook and starting a "get to know you chat" to old...
A Firefighter Marriage Story – Surviving Infidelity
Meet Christy and Chad. Married 19 years. Known each other most of their lives and dated 5 years before getting married. Here is their inspiring story of making marriage amazing. How did you meet? We met when we were 13 or 14 at our local skating rink, I actually...
Top Things to Do When Your Firefighter is on Shift
Our Time Together is Kind of a Big Deal... How do you prioritize your schedules when your firefighter is on shift? Do you have certain things that only happen on a shift day/night so you can make the most of every moment when they get home? On last week's Shift Night...
Married…but dating.
There are three things that sometimes prevent us all from having a “date night” with our firefighters weather we are married or in a long term relationship. We recently had this come up in the SISTERHOOD . Time, money and for those of us with children, babysitters!...
Back Off! That’s Our Time – Protecting Your Fire Family Schedule
Have you ever been at a family event or a neighborhood gathering or church and someone says "That was fun. We should all get together again." and your insides start to squirm and your brain starts thinking of polite excuses? So these are super nice people and...
A Firefighter Marriage Story – Surviving Infidelity
Meet Christy and Chad. Married 19 years. Known each other most of their lives and dated 5 years before getting married. Here is their inspiring story of making marriage amazing. How did you meet? We met when we were 13 or 14 at our local skating rink, I actually...
Financial Peace Program Offered Exclusively for Fire Couples
Is money a fighting word in your marriage? Since we all know that sometimes finances can be a huge issue, we are so excited to announce we are offering a fire family Financial Peace group led by certified instructors and available to our members at a discounted price!...
He cheated on me. Do I try to make it work?
I hate this question. It's taboo. I don't even want to have to think about it. But it comes to me at least monthly in a private message that someone wants me to anonymously ask. The fire service is a DISASTER when it comes to marriage. An absolute freaking...
Prayer for Your Firefighter Through the Week
There is no formula for prayer. But my mind gets so busy and cluttered a little road map helps me out. And so does having pretty visual reminders all around me. Print out a couple of copies of this to stick in prominent (or not so prominent) places around your...
He cheated on me. Do I try to make it work?
I hate this question. It's taboo. I don't even want to have to think about it. But it comes to me at least monthly in a private message that someone wants me to anonymously ask. The fire service is a DISASTER when it comes to marriage. An absolute freaking...
The Love Dare – Day #40
Day 40 (You can read more details explaining how we are doing the dare here: https://firefighterwife.com/fireproof-your-marriage/) Love Is a Covenant Where you go, I will go, and where you lodge, I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God, my...
The Love Dare – Day #39
Day 39 (You can read more details explaining how we are doing the dare here: https://firefighterwife.com/fireproof-your-marriage/) Love Endures Love never fails. – 1 Corinthians 13:8 Excerpt from The Love Dare Book: "If love is really love, it doesn’t waffle when...
The Love Dare – Day #38
Day 38 (You can read more details explaining how we are doing the dare here: https://firefighterwife.com/fireproof-your-marriage/) Love Fulfills Dreams Delight yourself in the Lord; and He will give you the desires of your heart. – Psalm 37:4 Excerpt from The Love...
The Love Dare – Day #37
Day 37 (You can read more details explaining how we are doing the dare here: https://firefighterwife.com/fireproof-your-marriage/) Love Agrees in Prayer If two of you agree on earth about anything that they may ask, it shall be done for them by My Father. – Matthew...
The Love Dare – Day #36
Day 36 (You can read more details explaining how we are doing the dare here: https://firefighterwife.com/fireproof-your-marriage/) Love is God’s Word Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path. – Psalm 119:105 Excerpt from The Love Dare Book: "God has...
The Love Dare – Day #35
Day 35 (You can read more details explaining how we are doing the dare here: https://firefighterwife.com/fireproof-your-marriage/) Love is Accountable Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed. – Proverbs 15:22 Excerpt from The Love Dare...
The Love Dare – Day #34
Day 34 (You can read more details explaining how we are doing the dare here: https://firefighterwife.com/fireproof-your-marriage/) Love Celebrates Godliness [Love] does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth. – 1 Corinthians 13:6 Excerpt from...