Firefighter Marriage
Fast-paced, unpredictable, passionate, one-of-a-kind, committed, engaging, challenging, priceless…These are a just a few of the words that describe Firefighter Marriages. A couple can be on fire one minute, and cold as ice the next. How do you keep the flame burning hot? Communication, missed holidays, schedules, and balance can be hard…But your love can be stronger. Find support, connections, resources, and laughter here to help your marriage be Fire Strong!
Step Away From Your Devices: Your Summer Unplugged
Often we struggle as fire families to make time to do things together. For some of you, the fire service gets nearly every free moment - life shouldn't be that way. (*ahem* I will not call you out so harshly, but if you're not giving your spouse and family...
New Year’s Eve – Date Night Delight or Dud?
Jackpot. A night off on a holiday. It feels like it never happens, right? All the good ones always fall on shift. He gets transferred from station to station and is always back in the rotation where BAM - holidays are workdays. This is the life we signed up....
Holiday Exhaustion – How Will It Impact Your Marriage?
Can you feel it? The bloat of stuffing and the turkey just fading away. The jingling bells of Christmas and the holiday season coming right for you? The holidays are officially here and hollering merrily that it is time to decide what WILL be the perfect gift for...
Marriage Fire Safety Month Wrap Up
So much effort goes into Fire Safety and Fire Prevention in the months of September and October. We agree it's highly important, but we added another area to apply those same basic rules to. Firefighters spend countless hours training and preparing for those bad...
Keep the Love Fires Burning Over the Distance
"Absence makes the heart grow fonder, but it sure makes the rest of you lonely." Charles M. Schultz I am going to be honest, there were times I wasn't sure we would make it through and still be together in the end. But there were also times when I was flying...
How To Watch a Fire Movie With Your Firefighter
Firefighter movies. You cannot escape them as a fire wife, nor should you in my opinion. Whether it's watching live burns on Youtube videos or the ritualistic watching of Ladder 49 or Backdraft (with all the commentary as to what's real and accurate and what's...
What to Say to Your Firefighter When He’s Had a Bad Call
You can feel the air turn tense before a word is even said. You know it was a bad shift. Something must have happened to make such a drastic change in your firefighter. Maybe he is angry, or silent, or sad....you just know something isn't right. Do you ask about it?...
When a Firefighter is Irritable, Grumpy, and Disengaged When He’s Home
This article is so important because we’ve all been there yet so few admit it and talk about it. There is no shame in relating to this or even sharing this post. You never know who is suffering and needs these words. Let’s just start with these words straight from the...
It’s Raining…It’s Pouring…And I Couldn’t Be Happier!
My wife and I downsized over a year ago from a beautiful home on five acres in the country, to a starter community in the suburbs. Our financial situation, precipitated by a wake up call from Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University, opened up a large wound in...
Why Your Holiday Feelings are Bigger (and how to guide that sleigh)
You know what feels good when life gets crazy? Validation that you aren't crazy. Yes, Virginia, Your Fire Family Christmas IS Extra crazytown. We validate that as professionals with professional advice. You already know this as a fire family (but let's check...
Fire Wife Wisdom {On Duty Communication Plan}
Do you have a plan about how and when you contact your firefighter? We often get the question, "I have a problem (insert a long list of possible issues from mild to important ), should I call my firefighter, or wait until he gets off duty?" "I have this...
Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff (But When is it Small Stuff?!)
This Guest Post is from Courtney Murrell of fromtheashesiamreal.com. This post hit home with me, and maybe you'll relate some too. It's great to be able to see others in the Fire Life experiencing the same things, even when it isn't technically fire...
Fire Family Protocols: Lessen the Spread of Contagions from the Firehouse to Home
Dear Fire Wife Sisters, What crazy times we are facing. But some of you are no stranger to this. Our firefighters are "first in" on many contagious situations. And for some of you, this is a first. Maybe you are a new fire family or simply haven't faced this situation...
Social Distancing: Covid-19
WHY IS COVID-19 DIFFERENT THAN INFLUENZA AND WHY IS SOCIAL DISTANCING IS IMPORTANT? Some thoughts / tips to understand facts and see how I’m handling this as a mom, fire family and business owner: NUMBERS AND MATH DON’T LIE I say this to my kids and...
Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff (But When is it Small Stuff?!)
This Guest Post is from Courtney Murrell of fromtheashesiamreal.com. This post hit home with me, and maybe you'll relate some too. It's great to be able to see others in the Fire Life experiencing the same things, even when it isn't technically fire...
How Marriage Comparison is Stealing Your Joy
This Guest Post is brought to you by Rachel Mellencamp. (Twitter: @rachelmcamp and IG: @rachelmellencamp) She been married for 3 years to her Firefighter. She says she is still figuring it out. (Aren't we all 😉 ) She also has a passion for firefighters and their...
You Become Like the 5 People You Hang Around the Most
You become like the 5 people you hang around the most. Chances are you’ve heard this statement before in some form. I know I’ve heard it in business, in faith circles, in fitness endeavors, etc. Have you ever taken some time to consider what it might mean for...
Family First, FDIC, or Both?
Here's a long one..... are you ready? Are you going to FDIC? Is your firefighter? Do you even know what it is? At least here in the midwest, the buzz is loud about this event - the largest gathering of firefighters in the country drawing around 30,000...
Fire Wife Finds
Over the years we've learned that a lot of our Fire Wives love to craft and can be ingeniously frugal! The Dating Divas have helped with that, a lot! They continuously bring great new Date Night Ideas, seasonal themed print packs and...
Step Away From Your Devices: Your Summer Unplugged
Often we struggle as fire families to make time to do things together. For some of you, the fire service gets nearly every free moment - life shouldn't be that way. (*ahem* I will not call you out so harshly, but if you're not giving your spouse and family...
Ways to Honor a Retired Fire Wife
Firefighters and fire wives both know the sacrifices we each make living the fire life. Although we may not always tell each other. A little thank you or acknowledgement of how much your spouse gives, either at home or at the station, can go a long way to the heart of...
Fire Family Protocols: Lessen the Spread of Contagions from the Firehouse to Home
Dear Fire Wife Sisters, What crazy times we are facing. But some of you are no stranger to this. Our firefighters are "first in" on many contagious situations. And for some of you, this is a first. Maybe you are a new fire family or simply haven't faced this situation...
Social Distancing: Covid-19
WHY IS COVID-19 DIFFERENT THAN INFLUENZA AND WHY IS SOCIAL DISTANCING IS IMPORTANT? Some thoughts / tips to understand facts and see how I’m handling this as a mom, fire family and business owner: NUMBERS AND MATH DON’T LIE I say this to my kids and...
Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff (But When is it Small Stuff?!)
This Guest Post is from Courtney Murrell of fromtheashesiamreal.com. This post hit home with me, and maybe you'll relate some too. It's great to be able to see others in the Fire Life experiencing the same things, even when it isn't technically fire...
How Marriage Comparison is Stealing Your Joy
This Guest Post is brought to you by Rachel Mellencamp. (Twitter: @rachelmcamp and IG: @rachelmellencamp) She been married for 3 years to her Firefighter. She says she is still figuring it out. (Aren't we all 😉 ) She also has a passion for firefighters and their...
You Become Like the 5 People You Hang Around the Most
You become like the 5 people you hang around the most. Chances are you’ve heard this statement before in some form. I know I’ve heard it in business, in faith circles, in fitness endeavors, etc. Have you ever taken some time to consider what it might mean for...
Family First, FDIC, or Both?
Here's a long one..... are you ready? Are you going to FDIC? Is your firefighter? Do you even know what it is? At least here in the midwest, the buzz is loud about this event - the largest gathering of firefighters in the country drawing around 30,000...
Fire Wife Finds
Over the years we've learned that a lot of our Fire Wives love to craft and can be ingeniously frugal! The Dating Divas have helped with that, a lot! They continuously bring great new Date Night Ideas, seasonal themed print packs and...
Step Away From Your Devices: Your Summer Unplugged
Often we struggle as fire families to make time to do things together. For some of you, the fire service gets nearly every free moment - life shouldn't be that way. (*ahem* I will not call you out so harshly, but if you're not giving your spouse and family...
Ways to Honor a Retired Fire Wife
Firefighters and fire wives both know the sacrifices we each make living the fire life. Although we may not always tell each other. A little thank you or acknowledgement of how much your spouse gives, either at home or at the station, can go a long way to the heart of...
The Love Dare – Day 33
(You can read more details explaining how we are doing the dare here: The Love Dare with FirefighterWife) Love Completes Each Other If two lie down together they keep warm, but how can one be warm alone? Ecclesiastes 4:11 Excerpt from The Love Dare Book: "Although...
The Love Dare – Day 32
(You can read more details explaining how we are doing the dare here: The Love Dare with FirefighterWife) Love Meets Sexual Needs The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband. 1 Corinthians 7:3 Excerpt from The Love Dare...
The Love Dare – Day 31
(You can read more details explaining how we are doing the dare here: The Love Dare with FirefighterWife) Love and Marriage A man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. Genesis 2:24 Excerpt from The Love...
The Love Dare – Day 30
(You can read more details explaining how we are doing the dare here: The Love Dare with FirefighterWife) Love Brings Unity Father, keep them in Your name, the name whichYou have given Me, that they may be one even as We are. John 17:11 Excerpt from The Love Dare...
The Love Dare – Day 29
(You can read more details explaining how we are doing the dare here: The Love Dare with FirefighterWife) Love’s Motivation Render service with a good attitude, as to the Lord and not to men. Ephesians 6:7 HCSB Excerpt from The Love Dare Book: "The love...
The Love Dare – Day 28
(You can read more details explaining how we are doing the dare here: The Love Dare with FirefighterWife) Love Makes Sacrifices He laid down His life for us. We should also lay down our lives for our brothers. 1 John 3:16 HCSB Excerpt from The Love Dare Book: "Love...
The Love Dare – Day 27
(You can read more details explaining how we are doing the dare here: The Love Dare with FirefighterWife) Love Encourages Guard my soul and deliver me; do not let me be ashamed, for I take refuge in You. Psalm 25:20 Excerpt from The Love Dare Book: "If a wife expects...
The Love Dare – Day 26
(You can read more details explaining how we are doing the dare here: The Love Dare with FirefighterWife) Love is Responsible When you judge another, you condemn yourself, since you, the judge, do the same things. Romans 2:1 HCSB Excerpt from The Love Dare Book:...
The Love Dare – Day 25
(You can read more details explaining how we are doing the dare here: The Love Dare with FirefighterWife) Love Forgives What I have forgiven, if I have forgiven anything, I did it for your sakes in the presence of Christ. 2 Corinthians 2:10 Excerpt from The Love Dare...
Fire Family Protocols: Lessen the Spread of Contagions from the Firehouse to Home
Dear Fire Wife Sisters, What crazy times we are facing. But some of you are no stranger to this. Our firefighters are "first in" on many contagious situations. And for some of you, this is a first. Maybe you are a new fire family or simply haven't faced this situation...
Social Distancing: Covid-19
WHY IS COVID-19 DIFFERENT THAN INFLUENZA AND WHY IS SOCIAL DISTANCING IS IMPORTANT? Some thoughts / tips to understand facts and see how I’m handling this as a mom, fire family and business owner: NUMBERS AND MATH DON’T LIE I say this to my kids and...
Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff (But When is it Small Stuff?!)
This Guest Post is from Courtney Murrell of fromtheashesiamreal.com. This post hit home with me, and maybe you'll relate some too. It's great to be able to see others in the Fire Life experiencing the same things, even when it isn't technically fire...
How Marriage Comparison is Stealing Your Joy
This Guest Post is brought to you by Rachel Mellencamp. (Twitter: @rachelmcamp and IG: @rachelmellencamp) She been married for 3 years to her Firefighter. She says she is still figuring it out. (Aren't we all 😉 ) She also has a passion for firefighters and their...
You Become Like the 5 People You Hang Around the Most
You become like the 5 people you hang around the most. Chances are you’ve heard this statement before in some form. I know I’ve heard it in business, in faith circles, in fitness endeavors, etc. Have you ever taken some time to consider what it might mean for...
Family First, FDIC, or Both?
Here's a long one..... are you ready? Are you going to FDIC? Is your firefighter? Do you even know what it is? At least here in the midwest, the buzz is loud about this event - the largest gathering of firefighters in the country drawing around 30,000...
Fire Wife Finds
Over the years we've learned that a lot of our Fire Wives love to craft and can be ingeniously frugal! The Dating Divas have helped with that, a lot! They continuously bring great new Date Night Ideas, seasonal themed print packs and...
Step Away From Your Devices: Your Summer Unplugged
Often we struggle as fire families to make time to do things together. For some of you, the fire service gets nearly every free moment - life shouldn't be that way. (*ahem* I will not call you out so harshly, but if you're not giving your spouse and family...
Ways to Honor a Retired Fire Wife
Firefighters and fire wives both know the sacrifices we each make living the fire life. Although we may not always tell each other. A little thank you or acknowledgement of how much your spouse gives, either at home or at the station, can go a long way to the heart of...