Marriage
Less Divorce. Stronger Fire Marriages.
Marriage isn’t easy.
Divorce is something we do not recommend to anyone without first fighting like mad to save your marriage. Marriage isn’t easy. Throw in the complications of the fire life and it sometimes feels impossible. Long hours at the job. A “second family”. Stressful calls. Sleepless nights. PTSD. Interrupted communications. Your schedule not matching the rest of the world’s. Missed holidays. The list goes on.
Get Connected with Those Who “Get” the Fire Life.
It may seem like your friends and family don’t get the fire life. They may not understand why you want to keep your schedule free on the days your firefighter is home. They may not understand why you take your phone everywhere with you. They may not understand lonely nights and holidays when your firefighter is on shift.
Resources
We are here to rescue and strengthen fire marriages.
Here are some resources to help you work through those tough spots.
*Disclaimer: If you are being physically or verbally abused, we want you to seek help immediately. Try TheHotline.org for immediate support.
Leslie Vernick
If you’ve had trouble with:
- Repetitive relationship difficulties
- Being stuck in destructive relationships
- Struggling with an abusive marriage, or
- Creating better relationships
Leslie is a great place to go to. she is a national and international speaker, author, licensed clinical social worker, consultant and relationship coach with an expertise on the subjects of personal and spiritual growth, marriage improvement, conflict resolution, depression, child abuse, destructive relationships and domestic violence.
Sometimes we do not have a good perspective on how truly dangerous situations in our marriage may be. Because we love this person so much and do not want a failed marriage. So we try at all costs (and we should leave it all on the table when working on our marriage). After so many years of supporting firefighter marriages, we realize that there are truly some situations where one spouse is in an abusive situation that isn’t as obvious as physical abuse. Abuse can also be verbal, emotional, spiritual, financial and anything that keeps one spouse controlled and oppressed. This video from Leslie Vernick helps to discern if that is happening in your marriage and her resources can assist.
Learn more about Leslie Vernick on her website, and check out her Conquer Club Program Here.
Do the ‘Love Dare’
Are you in a marriage slump?
Or just missing the excitement in your marriage? Watch the Fireproof movie and do the 40 day Love Dare devotional book either alone or with your spouse. Either way your marriage will end up in a better place.
Check out the Love Day, FirefighterWife.com style using The Love Dare blog posts.
Read the Best Firefighter Marriage Blog Posts
Start with The 5 Love Languages
We think it’s an easy read and a must do for every marriage so that you learn how to love each other in the BEST way.
Read the all time favorite blog posts:
- When He Doesn’t Say He’s Sorry
- Disarming Your Irritable Sleep Deprived Firefighter
- I Used to Hate his Firehouse
- How do I Survive on Only 15 Minutes of Conversation with my Firefighter Each Day?
- It’s Not Nice to Push, Especially Your Spouse
- Our Marriage is Sexless
- Think Pornography Isn’t Affecting You?
- A Firefighter Marriage Story – Surviving Infidelity
Never Stop Learning
about marriage
Discover our favorite books for marriage support.
Reignite Flames
in the bedroom!
Whether you are more on the wild side or the conservative side, this eBook will light a fire in your bedroom for you sure. There is something for everyone.
And for those of you who may not be hearing this at your church, I’m a Jesus freak and I’ve read Song of Solomon. And I’m certain he wants us to be having amazingly hot sex with our husbands. If somethings broken there, time to fix it.
When All Else Fails…
work on YOU
What if he doesn’t want to work on your marriage? It won’t hurt anything for you to work on yourself. What’s going on in your head? How do you physically feel? Get active. Read a book. Pray. Join one of our programs here online.
We can’t fully engage in a healthy relationship unless we’ve got our feet squarely on the ground and our head on straight as well. In the moments when I was most frustrated with my marriage, I had to turn my focus on being a better me so I’d have the patience and endurance to love him in the midst of his storm.
Counseling is an amazing option. You may have to “shop” around to find the one for YOU, but we highly recommend counselling to everyone who will listen! Individual counseling is a great gift to yourself.
FIRE UP YOUR LOVE LIFE
12 Steamy Days with your Firefighter is a How to Guide by firefighter wives, for firefighter wives, to fire up your love life.
Your Fire Life is different.
So your communication needs to be too
This Fire Family Training teaches strategies for navigating the stress and trauma a first responder life brings to your relationship and family.
There's an academy for you too!
Designed for women who are new to the fire life... or who want a reminder of why this life IS different. The Fire Wife Academy gives the tools and resources you need to create the fire life that works for you and your family.
What You Need to Know to Thrive
So here you are, brand new to the Fire Life. You’re either dating, newlywed or newly become a firefighter… or possibly a veteran to the fire life but looking for community; either way we are glad you found this resource.
Download Fire Life 101, the free eBook we put together just for YOU.
Crisis Support Now
Maybe life has gotten really out of control and you or your first responder need help now. Or maybe... you just don't know and need to talk to someone who gets it.
Every request is confidential.