Our 24-7 COMMITMENT to Our Marriages Does Not Include Pornography
This is most definitely not the most popular stance for the general public and especially for a secular site such as ours. But it is our stance and for very good reasons. We will do everything possible to strengthen our marriages and would like to share with you how pornography, even when used for fun with seemingly with good intention, is destroying your marriage and your brain.
Pornography is like a drug. Drugs are habit forming. And literally change the neuro paths in our brains.
Explore these resources for more information on this topic scientifically and with personal testimonies from fire families.
TED Talk – A Scientific Explanation of Pornography’s Effect on the Brain
This video gives you insight into what’s going on in the male brain during pornography exposure and why it’s damaging relationships. Watch it here.
Patheos: The Relationship Between Porn and Technology
9 Minute video from Jefferson Bethke Watch it here.
Protecting Our Youth
Pornography is one click away from our youth. And those teen and pre-teen minds are incredibly impressionable. If you have a boy, read this book to learn exactly how habit forming pornographic images are to a young testosterone soaked brain of an adolescent.
The Male Brain and Pornography
In this book neuroscientist and researcher William Struthers explains how pornography affects the male brain and what we can do about it. Because we are embodied beings, viewing pornography changes how the brain works, how we form memories and make attachments. By better understanding the biological realities of our sexual development, we can cultivate healthier sexual perspectives and interpersonal relationships.
Many Men and Women struggle with this topic and we are not here to judge, but only to provide a positive environment for you to find support and to strengthen yourself with mentors and encouraging community groups.
Men, join the free Honor Guard community where you can find real talk with other men who struggle and have overcome the need for pornography in their marriage.
If You Watch Porn, You’re Still Welcome Here!
More important than our belief on any one issue is the building of a community. We just want to be clear and upfront with everyone that we will not condone the use of pornography nor discussion of it in our communities.
But there are at least 27,376 other topics we can talk about related to strengthening the fire service by strengthening our marriages and families. And that, my friends, we must do as a one team.
Ladies, join the Fire Wife Sisterhood and find support from others who are dating, engaged or married to a firefighter and facing this battle in their relationship.
Articles from Fire Families on the Impact of Pornography
Other Helpful Articles from Around the Web
Russell Brand Share’s His Reason for Opposition to Porn
Personal Testimonials from Fire Families
So, now, I’m not willing to bring porn into my marriage.
For the record, I don’t want my Ff to go down as a bad husband or man. I seriously hit the jackpot with him! He definitely has his struggles, but he is an amazing husband and father. And he always considers my feelings, which is why I think he struggles so much in the first place! And since we have gotten to the place where we can discuss it calmly, our sex life has become so much healthier!
The Problem With Pornography is Bigger Than Just Our Marriages
Pornography Drives the Human Trafficking Industry
20-30 million people are sold for sex every day. (from DoSomething.org) It’s not just a problem outside of the United States. Every city in the US has a sex trafficking issue and organizations out to stop it (SheHasAName.com one of my favorites here in Columbus, Ohio) And there are numerous statistics to show that the porn industry feeds human trafficking.
- The Connection Between Pornography and Sex Trafficking from Covenant Eyes
- She’s Somebody’s Daughter
- And even the Huffington Post shares “Want to stop sex trafficking? Look at America’s Porn Addiction“