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Our Mission

is pure and simple

To Honor, Encourage and Strengthen Fire Wives, Marriages and Families.

Counseling is is the best tool out there.  Please seek counseling for many of life’s curve balls, this is great advice we not only give… but utilize ourselves.  But we do want to be that supportive bridge during those times of need.  To use a sterile professional workplace term, we are “peer support”.  In real life words, we are the non-judging supportive friends you’ve been seeking.  Our  involvement with the mission started with the fire service where the divorce rate have been quoted to be as high as 75%.  We want to see that number fall.

Exclusively for First Responder Families

The Newest Trainings & Upcoming Events

Here you will find helpful resources like:

Quick Response to Your Most Important Fire Life Questions.

Have a fire life emergency?

Proactive and Reactive Department Support

Resources, Training, Retreats, Behavioral Health Services, First Responder Specific Counseling.

We can help you build a resilient organization and first responder family.

Crisis Support Now

Maybe life has gotten really out of control and you or your first responder need help now. Or maybe... you just don't know and need to talk to someone who gets it.

Every request is confidential.

Your Fire Life is different.
So your communication needs to be too

This Fire Family Training teaches strategies for navigating the stress and trauma a first responder life brings to your relationship and family.


Retirement preparation can help first responders take early steps to embrace retirement as a positive stressor.

Sponsored by The 100 Club of Arizona

There's an academy for you too!

Designed for women who are new to the fire life... or who want a reminder of why this life IS different. The Fire Wife Academy gives the tools and resources you need to create the fire life that works for you and your family.


12 Steamy Days with your Firefighter is a How to Guide by firefighter wives, for firefighter wives, to fire up your love life.

What You Need to Know to Thrive

So here you are, brand new to the Fire Life. You’re either dating, newlywed or newly become a firefighter… or possibly a veteran to the fire life but looking for community; either way we are glad you found this resource.

Download Fire Life 101, the free eBook we put together just for YOU.

The people that are involved with this online community are just a little different. They understand the ups and downs of our daily lives. Some days were doing great and then we hit bottom, really missing our Firefighters or spouses.

The Firefighter Wife Blog

You deal with unique challenges as the wife of a firefighter. Here is a great place to join other fire wives in laughter, advice, stories, tips, and encouragement. 


Top Fire Life Resources

We’ve hand selected our favorite and most trusted resources on topics important to all fire families.  Find them all under the Find Resources option in our menu. You’ll find resources for:

Behavioral Health


The FirefighterWife on Facebook

Keep up with the latest news and find free, helpful and fun resources, series, articles and posts shared through the FirefighterWife Facebook Page.


The 12 Steamy Days eBook

Completely Fire Up Your Love Life with our free eBook, 12 Steamy Days with Your Firefighter, has all the best tips and ideas to plan 12 AMAZING days of reconnection and intimacy with your firefighter.


New to the Fire Service?

Be sure to download this free guide from  for all who are new the fire life or who want a quick reference refresher.  Fire Life 101 walks you through managing the stress and worry and celebrating the awesomeness of living the fire life.


Honor and Commitment

This book is for you.

Have You Read the A-to-Z Guide for Fire Families?

Honor & Commitment:  Standard Life Operating Guidelines for Firefighters and Their Families has become a fast favorite for fire families everywhere. 

This book covers real topics, from real fire families helping you to see that you are normal and there is a positive way through this fire life.

Get your copy today. Available in paperback, ebook and 10 pack bundles at a discount!


I’m A Seasoned Firefighter / Fire Family and LOVE this Mission. How Can I Do More?

Many find us and say ‘I wish I had this when we were a young family’.   If that’s you, we’d love your support!   Please consider ways you can step alongside and help us as a volunteer, donor or just spreading the word.

We are overwhelmed with men and women who reach out and want to serve along side us.  W-O-W!  So many amazingly talented firefighters and spouses.

Please be patient with our response as we receive many emails daily while trying to maintain our day jobs, manage our families, and well, you know, juggle the fire wife life!

Here are ways you can help as a volunteer:

  • Are you a writer?  We love guest bloggers to add to our wealth of knowledge here on the site. Real life from those who are living it.
  • Love on others on in our Facebook Community at
  • Share our resources with anyone who may benefit.
  • Share our resources with your Department.