No doubt the group of fire couples hanging around this site and in our groups are in LOVE with their spouses!  And no doubt there are moments you are all stressed, worried, feeling unloved and unlovely.  Marriage is not easy and takes so much constant work. But worth every moment.

Maybe you are in a really rough spot and not feeling much love for your husband and doing The Love Dare feels like your last effort to save your marriage. Thank you for being here and for trying.  This series is great for either spouse, so firefighters… keep reading too!

Let’s take 40 days together to focus on our marriages.

Do as little or as much as you are able. Don’t feel overwhelmed, burdened or stressed by it. Every little bit is helpful. It will work like this:

1. Watch the movie “Fireproof” Here

2. Order “The Love Dare” book

(Borrow from your library , or you can Order Your copy of The Love Dare Book here)

3. Follow along The Love Dare on your own with our short excerpt blogs.

There is a short excerpt posted for each day here in the blog (Overview link below).

4. Share your thoughts

You can read along. Skip a day. Do what works for you. Then share your thoughts and comments on the FirefighterWife Facebook Page.

Don’t underestimate the impact you could make on someone else’s marriage by sharing a challenge, success or revelation you had in your own. Good discussion will make this so much better.



“lasting love is not determined by the one


I especially encourage those who are in a tough place in their marriage to join in and participate. It may feel like loving on your spouse a little more is the last thing you want to do. I encourage you to watch the movie and think about it. You will have so much support in this community. Here’s something shared with us on The Love Dare with Firefighter Wife…


“My dh and I have been going through some really rough times in our marriages and I feel like i no longer should be the one to do these dares. Is that selfish of me? To summarize our issues we will just say he had a date with a girl, which I found their text messages, he was fired from his job, and now he is on probation and is now going through treatment for substance abuse.  I’m so lost and feel so drug through the mud I feel like i should be the one to make nice and go through these dares… i need support i need guidance. ” 

Wow. That’s a lot of hurt. I will be praying specifically for each of you as you decide on participating in this Love Dare.

Working with our creative fire life schedule:

If your spouse is not with you…..away fighting fires, etc… or you are supposed to do something for your spouse and it’s duty day….DO NOT LET THAT GET IN THE WAY! There is so much goodness here.  Husbands, don’t being on duty or taking care of responsibilities keep you from participating, fit your daily dares in there.   Let’s support each other as fire wives and husbands and find creative ways around it. And by the way, if you do Day 3 actually on Day 4, you won’t be kicked out 🙂



Are you in?

Drop us a comment and share as much or as little as you’d like on our Facebook Pages, The Firefighter Wife. If your relationship is experiencing any type of abuse, please seek professional help.